Aces In Your Pocket

During my years of learning the subtle ways of dating and also teaching it, it has come across my mind that even despite having read books on how to be attractive to women and consuming endless online products on this matter is no use if you do not have certain game plan.

How to have all the aces in your pocket, so to say.

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In my case, a year or so back I knew everything there was to know about successfully picking up women from the very first moment I laid my eyes on her. But, it was not enough.

You see…

Brain is a tricky thing. Even if we know how to do something, even if we realize that a good diet and exercise, dropping the junk food habit and drinking less alcohol will make you lose weight, we have a hard time actually fully going for it, we struggle with the execution of our own plans and living up to our own values.

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Let’s say you know how to lose weight (because come on, we all do), but you’re still a bit chubby and it is in your value system to be fit and healthy. Now, if you value a good look and a functional body so highly, then why are you not living up your own values yourself? In fact, why are you not taking action today in order to become that person of your own desire? You do not need to be that person today, but you can strive to become him by taking action today, eating less and going for a run.

Deep down we all know what needs to be done, yet we do not always do it.

It’s the same deal with dating. We know how one is supposed to approach this matter, yet we delve in our own thoughts, looking for an easier way, fantasising what could be if we used our potential, our strength to the fullest. In other words, we know how and who, we just don’t have the willpower to actually put one foot in front of another and do the damn thing.

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Therefore, without any further ado, here’s my three step formula to open ANY girl at any place at any time, AND without having your own “weak” self tune in and make you sit there without taking action while that hot girls strolls past you. And not just that, but this formula can be translated into any other area in your life. Sounds freaking amazing, doesn’t it.

 

Are ya ready?


 

First right off the bat, notice someone who you would be interested in based on her looks. Stop lying to yourself about her not being hot enough, about her probably having something important to do and you’d be just interrupting her, stop making excuses about why you should not approach her.

Do you know that the act of romance and love tops everything else? You could be late to a meeting, yet that cool guy coming up to you and saying hi would change everything now wouldn’t it? Your day would feel much better, you’d be meeting him again the next day for coffee and so on…

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In other words, life would feel easy as fuck if there is something such as romance to live for. We, humans, love that. We love that dynamic more than anything. We are able to sacrifice valuable work time just so that we could have a chat with a potential match.

Funny, eh.

Therefore, you going up to that girl and she reacting to you is the most important thing she could be doing right now.

The next step is to realize that you’re enough. You are enough in every way possible. Yes, you might now have a Ferrari or a summer beach house to offer to this wonderful girl, but guess what – the guy with those things most likely doesn’t have the balls to approach a random chick on a corner of 5th avenue and actually have his shit together thinking he’s enough during this process. Therefore, if you’re able to do it, then you already have higher value in the eyes of the girl than that other guy with external riches. You have inner riches, which tops external values at any day.

Because,

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At the end of the day, girls look for romance, not cars or houses. Girls looks for emotions since they’re human. Girls look for a guy that is able to provide them with an interesting story. Sure, Lambos and beach houses help to create a cool story, but if you don’t have what it takes inside yourself, then those fancy cars and houses won’t do you much good.

Therefore, if you’re able to go up to her, then you’re completely enough for her. You’re in her league at least, if not higher.

And the third and final step is easy.

Just do it ūüėČ

 

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How I Stopped Caring About Discomfort (+ My Own Story)

To make a following point, it is necessary for me to share my story.

Let’s begin.

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Ages 1-7

As a youngster just about to go to school I had very little friends. In fact, none. Other kids around me were playing with each other, building sad castles, enjoying their time in the park playing soccer. Me however spent the entire day with my grandparents, because the outside world was too dangerous for me, at least that’s what my mother kept telling me.

Ages 7-13

When I went to school I did absolutely everything in my power in order to please my parents. I did my homework every single time it was due, and not just that, but I started with writing my papers right after the assignment had been assigned. The task could have been due next week or even next month, yet I started right away, because my mother told me to do so. This went on for about 6 years.

Ages 13-17

As I was in 7th grade, I started to care less about rules and played around a lot more, hence the beginning of receiving mediocre grades. I still passes, but the test scores weren’t perfect or at least close to perfection. This angered my parents of course, especially my mother, you gave me a TV/Computer ban and also reduced my time with friends quite a bit to the point of almost having no freedom at all.

My home situation was a mess, I was scared to fail yet I did not feel like studying at all. I did enough to just pass and then endured my mother’s rage. I escaped into video games and spent all my “homework” time secretly reading comic books under the blanket. therefore, my grades flunked even more. When my mother found that out…needless to say, she was not happy at all. You can picture why.

Ages 17-19

As I was about to finish school, I discovered fitness. Bodybuilding, to be exact. Since I had nothing to hold on to emotionally at this point, I threw myself into that world, which started to consume all of my time. I became more confident, I started to give less of a shit about criticism and rules, and I became totally obsessed with my self-image to a point of almost starving myself to death. True story. But, I did not get much attention from women, nonetheless, despite even looking like a professional athlete.

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PS: I think this is what I always wanted. To be loved by women because my mother never gave me any validation and was always asking for more than I was emotionally capable to handle at that point.

 

Ages 19+

This is when my new life began. This is the life I’m still living to this day. This was the time when I discovered game and the art of seduction. The science of empowering every area of your life through picking up chicks. This was the biggest transformation I had ever gone through. Oh, how did it feel?

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Fucking amazing.

For most of my life I was running away from discomfort, only to find comfort in even more discomfort. Pickup challenged my life in more ways than school ever did, yet it is much more complicated, requires much more willpower and is MUCH more scary. Therefore,I reached a revelation.

Trying to avoid discomfort does not make you comfortable.

 

We all have pain bodies within us. According to Eckhart Tolle –

The painbody is my term for the accumulation of old emotional pain that almost all people carry in their energy field. I see it as a semi-autonomous psychic entity. It consists of negative emotions that were not faced, accepted, and then let go in the moment they arose.

In much simpler words, a pain body is something we all have deep within us and that’s mostly different for each of us. Once we realize that it’s there, a grand load of discomfort falls of our backs. Me for an example have always been keen on making women like me because due to my childhood “trauma” as some would say, I did not get enough of it from my parents (keep in mind that my father also barely saw me and when he did, he criticized).

You will most likely have something different, or maybe even you’re the same case as me. Point being – everybody has something. No-one’s cut from a different cloth, meaning we are designed to get hurt in some way or another. We all have something that’s meaningful, therefore a hurtful topic for us. And that pain body guides us through life.

My mentors have pretty much all the same complex called the helper. They get joy in helping other human beings and they are doing it with extreme passion. Sounds really nice on paper, am I right? The servant of people, offering value wherever they can. But in reality, they are hurt deep within, having this deep sense of need to help others that are not getting the right treatment. Sounds like a noble cause, yet it’s all based on a perverted pleasure. Luckily, that pleasure can be easily put into a good use and is highly valued.

Pain bodies guide our career choices, shape our relationships and are overall a HUGE influence. To free yourself from them – hehe, you’re reading the wrong article.

 

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Become The Next Dating Prodigy In 4 STEPS

Warning! This post might save your dating life.

Anyway, let’s begin…

When I was new to the dating world, not knowing what sparks attraction within a woman, thinking looks matter and therefore starting to work out, trying to get myself down to a low body fat percentage just so that women would approve of me and sexually want to be with me, I had major troubles with getting girls to actually like me. Needless to say I did achieve my fitness goals and looked freaking amazing without a shirt, but the results with women did not add up. Due to this I made a powerful discovery –

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When trying to find a girlfriend, your physical appearance does not matter. On women it does, and loads! On men, not so much (I’ll get into this in a second).

Now, let’s talk about the quality of girls. If you want a woman of higher quality, let’s say someone who works out and is winning in business, relationships… a woman who’s an overall winner, do looks matter? A little, yet nothing crucial.

Same with money. Does it matter? A little, yet nothing crucial.

Ultimately what makes a woman be attracted to a man is who that man is. No, I’m not talking about what that man does for a living or what status he holds in the eyes of our society, I’m talking about who that guy ACTUALLY is.

In my mind there are four pillars of attraction and by having them all properly balanced out you’ll be the most perfect guy she could find.

Purposeful

Nothing is more attractive than a guy who has a drive in life and who’s working on himself as a person.

This is when you’ve set a specific goal for yourself in life, knowing where to go and actually taking action and going there! This is when you know what you’re about and are not afraid to show it. Keep it fun, keep it lighthearted since the girl will not be attracted if you keep trying qualify yourself by sharing your goals and telling her how she should like you just because you have a goal. Not at all. Figure out what your life is about, set a goal for yourself whether it’s long-term or short-term, doesn’t matter, and then interact with the girl as if you did not care whether she finds out that you’re man of purpose or not. By doing so you’ll be purposeful almost automatically simply due to having the proper inner game sorted out before the approach.

Also, the girl will not fuck you if you do not take the conversation as a foreplay for sex. Since that’s what it is. Act with her as if you’re a man and she’s a woman and you’re both horny as fuck, yet there are social norms that prevent you two from fucking right then and there. Know as if you both are totally willing to fuck, but not yet. Do not try to win her over, already believe that you’ve won.

Besides, who the fuck would have the balls to actually approach with a sober head and then make it work? Almost no-one. So take some fucking pride in that. By being in self-help, by improving and focusing on learning more about life, having that as your main priority so to say, you’re already on the top. Money and good looks won’t change that. Your perception, in other words the way you view yourself however does!

By approaching, realize that girls want to meet a sex-worthy guy, and then there’s you providing that opportunity for them.

Therefore, have a purpose for your own life AND know why you’ve just approached that girl you’re talking to. If it’s for sexual purposes, own it. ¬†If it’s to just make a new friend, own it. Girls will be whatever you like them to be, if you’re grounded and real in your intentions while being able to show some empathy and realize what’s going on so that your extreme masculinity would not scare them away.

Controlled

Control the interaction. Think of yourself as a tree whereas the girl is the squirrel running around the tree. It’s the rule of being in reaction versus being grounded. If you want to have sex with a girl, you need to be the tree while she is being the squirrel. Whoever is reacting to the other more is the one that’s being controlled. And if the guy is being controlled by the girl, he’ll lose his sex-worthiness. Simple as that.

Also have an alignment in your thoughts, words and actions. If you’re out there approaching girls just with the sole purpose of having sex, own it up and act like it. This does not mean to be like a dog and chase girls, just assume every girl in the venue has already seen you and wants to have sex with you and now it’s time for you to choose. In other words – view yourself as a fucking god.

Is it realistic? Fuck no, but does it have some truth to it? Fuck yes. By improving yourself as a man and moving towards better understanding of our world you’re on the top, therefore one of the most sex-worthy guys out there. Having a STRONG sense of your own reality, whatever that might be. And is that far away from being a god? Hell no.

Act like a rock-star and get treated like one. You don’t even have to back it up, that’s the beauty about psychology and game. The one who has the strongest frame, wins. In the girls eyes you can be whoever you want to be.

Girls want a guy that’s alive, in his prime, on top of his shit, going places, has certainty, goes through life with ease, knows where he’s going. She wants a guy that’s potent and in his fucking prime.

Flowing

You will be meeting tons of girls when you go out. By meeting more people you’ll become more at ease with your interactions. You’ll be in this state of flow where talking to people and getting sex at the end of the night with a girl you like seems effortless. You’ll be in the zone, so to say.

Talk to everyone, sleep with the ones you like and learn from EVERYBODY. Even the guys that are trying to game and are competing with you. Learning is KEY.

Also, keep in mind that a girl is not a goddess. Snap out of that illusion, all girls are human just like you. They have families, they have issues, they are insecure, they try to be cool, they are living their own fucking life and are by NO MEANS perfect. She is the same value as you on a ground level, and if you’re a hardcore go-getter who’s eager to learn from everyone, your value will be even much higher!

And that’s okay. Accept everyone for what they are, you can be playfully judgemental yet never quite mean it (don’t call an actual fat person fat and so on). Accept people for what they are since they’re all fighting their own battles, big or small. Have some respect for that.

Anyway, flowing. Take it easy, there’s no need to rush things. Know that everything will work out eventually if you just keep at it. Come from an abundant mindset. Don’t let anything disturb your peace. Consistent meditation is of tremendous help here.

Act like a rock-star and you’ll be treated like one. ¬†Act like a rock-star and everyone will assume you’re one. Simple.

Self-amused

Whenever you go out, fun is such an important element. And I’m not talking about drinking, playing Pokemon with friends, sex or board games. I’m talking about having fun on your own, seeing the light side in everything that comes in your way and embracing the chaos, creating fun vibes out of nothing simply because you’re a giving person who loves to share good vibes.

Share good vibes! Be positive! Be the guy who’s good mood cannot be broken! Be like fucking Tom Cruise, the most positive guy ever!

Only you can determine your own entitlement. You see a hot girl, you feel approach anxiety yet you go anyway – that there defines you! It’s not the smile you get from the girl or the sex or any other validation you receive. It’s your own perception.

 

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If I could summarise my whole book on dating for men, this would be it. 200 000 words said in 1500 words. But, it won’t just cover EVERYTHING you need. It just cannot be done. This article just exposes you to the main concept of sexual attraction.So, once again:
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Want to go deeper?

 

Have a strong desire to find out more about women?

 

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How To Become “Hot” As a Man

True self-esteem comes from living up to your own values.

It’s one thing to just go around and say “I’m the most badass person alive”, but it’s an entirely different thing to actually feel such as you’re living up to your values and feeling like the most badass person alive. As we say in the dating industry – you can’t successfully fake your way to the top. Faking is a great method for you to get started and get a strong push towards the end goal, yet it is not a flawless technique that will last. For any beginner, going out and telling to yourself statements such as you’re awesome, you’re the greatest person alive and the girls you’re gonna hit up will be the most luckiest women on the planet purely because they get to experience you, and so on. It really fucking helps.

But, as you go about your journey and reach deeper, more advanced concepts, already being in the top 1%, but trying to reach even higher, what you’ll find is that “fake it till you make it” method will not be sustainable.

During those times, let’s call them the advanced concept for an advanced level of man, you’ll find that simply faking will not cut it. You’ll actually need to live up to your own values and beliefs in order to get that authenticity and charismatic flow around you. Once you’ll do that, then you’ll be equipped with an impenetrable aura that holds the secret to magnetic attraction.

It is one thing to go around and think I’m the shit, I’m awesome and so forth, but if it is not rooted in an adherence to a set system of code of conduct values, ways that you want people to view you, ways you want to be viewed by the world, the image you want to put forth, then it is not going to be legit.

When you are living up to your own values, let’s say you value being in shape and you are in shape and you value staying true to your word and you are doing so, then you’ll get that core confidence that comes from living up to your own standards. That’s when you have that true ability to be indifferent when you’re approaching a beautiful woman. You’ll no longer be worried about others liking you, because you’ll have an awareness that everyone does not have to like you. That’s when you’ll get labeled as that hot guy.


 

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Have a strong desire to find out more about women?

 

Do you happen to identify yourself as a guy who’s willing and passionate and won’t give up?

 

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Self Development Is Bullshit (The Truth About Success)

During my time as a dating coach I’ve met tons of guys that are obsessed with the idea of finding a girlfriend. Nothing too terrible about it.

But,

a grand majority of those guys are really damn desperate about this situation. It’s like finding a decent girlfriend would make their life complete. This one guy that I knew had only one goal in mind, which was to work just so that he could support his yet non-existent wife. No goals, no ambitions, no desire to change the world and enjoy life, just that one petty drive that drove him to get a degree and study maths along with other subjects that he shared deep hatred for.

Chances are that you’re one of those guys. Luckily, I’m here to tell you that approaching this matter from this¬†specific mindset will fuck up your chances of ever finding a girl that’s right for¬†your standards and deep desires.

 

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Having the need to do something will put our minds in a state, where we start to think that we’re not enough. We start thinking that in order to be complete we need something external, such as a girlfriend,¬†to get there. What this belief does is reinforce that idea of “I’m not enough right now and I need to do something with my life in order to be good enough.” This is what most of self-development consists of these days. We’re constantly comparing ourselves to our idols, seeing ourselves on that scale of greatness, measuring every single coin or pound and therefore making assumptions.

“I need to lose 5 more pounds and then I’ll be hot.”

“My girlfriend is okay at the moment, but if she were a little bit hotter then I’d feel enough.”

So on, so on and so fucking on…

It’s an endless rat race, since after completing goals we tend to always find new, bigger, greater goals. Therefore, we’ll never feel like we’re enough right now and happiness is always in distant future. Even by getting to that distant future we’ll find another future that’s better than the situation we’re in right now.

 

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My solution?

Fix your inner need of needing external stimulus in order to feel enough. Fix your desire to be loved, have expensive things or to bang lots of hot women. Fix your “need”. It’s all about where our deeds are coming from. If we need to do something, then we’ll feel like life right now is bullshit. But, if we tend to accept our current state as it is and hammer in the fact that we’re good enough right now just as we are, then we’re able to go after those cool things such as luxury cars and hot actresses without being dependant on the outcome. We’d start doing things not because we need to do them, but because we want to.

The difference between “need” and “want”. Pay attention to these two words very carefully.

In success with women, if you need to find a girlfriend, then the girl can sense that off you, therefore becoming unattracted to you since you’re not that high value man who would be okay with himself just so as he is right now. Fix your inner need to be good, understand that life is perfect just the way it is, and then work hard on your goals since it’s progress is just too much fun!

A much more important question we should ask of ourselves is whether the things we think of being success are really what we imagine them to be. Is success just being rich, having a great supporting family that will help you get through tough times? Or maybe it’s being the greatest in your own field, just as Lionel Messi or Christiano Ronaldo? Maybe success is understanding the laws of the good life and then living up to them? Maybe it’s all about personal enjoyment and having great experiences to share with the upcoming generations? What the fuck is success?

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What is success?

Success is predictable. It’s not something that takes years to figure out. Simply look at successful people, whether you’re looking at someone who’s doing the things that you’d like to do or has embarked on the journey that you’d like to adopt for your own life as well, and then just use the basic principle of copy paste. Look at their lifestyle, their daily rituals, their biography of how they got started, what they did, how they did it, why they did those things the way they did them, what was necessary and what was redundant and a waste of time, notice how you could shorten your own learning curve by avoiding their mistakes, and then get to the same level of success much sooner. To me, as a pickup artist, I learned from the best of the best. Owen Cook, Vince Kelvin, Julien Blanc, Jeff Allen and many other were my mentors, each teaching a different side of seduction through their own lenses, telling me what they have come across to be right. I looked at their lifestyle, the downsides and the upsides of it all, how their advice differs from everyone else’s and what could I do to optimize my learning curve and create my own personal style as a combination of my past experiences and the teachings these professionals of their own craft had put up to share with me. You can almost never learn to know about the full picture if you’re only gathering advice from only one person, because what are really the chances that the person you’re learning from has all the right answers? Really fucking slim, ain’t they. This is why we should learn from multiple sources, see the world through different perspectives and create our own reality of which supports our way of life by offering us the best quality of life. Open mindedness is a rare trait to have, and yet it’s the basis of many grand achievements that our history has ever known. How could you learn anything if you believe the source to be something it very well could not be? How could you take anyone seriously if you believe yourself to be the smartest guy in the entire city? How could you even begin to understand a strange and complicated concept, if you already have accumulated different negative opinions of the other that’s about to teach you? Labeling things duo to our own perspective that can very easily be bullshit, is something that we all do, and probably never stop doing, yet something that we should most certainly diminish in our lives. Everyone has their own perspective in life, be that true or not, helpful or not, smart or idiotic, and as long as we do not learn to accept it, the chances of actually succeeding in understanding them are almost none.

The principles of success are simple. Hard work done in a smart way. Cut out all the bullshit that does not help you to reach those highs that you so crave for, and spend all your time, not just your free time, but every single bit of your time towards making that dream come true. Going out to play pool with your buddies might not be the most optimal thing to do if your ambition is to invent a new groundbreaking app and do it as soon as possible to avoid the competition getting in your way. Yet, cutting out all the relaxing stuff you’ll risk burning out and being out of the game for months, if not years even.

Even though hard work is essential, taking breaks and knowing when to quit to preserve energy for next battles holds the same value. Many of us even sacrifice sleep in order to get ahead in their endeavor, and then, later in life, pay the ultimate price of shortening their own lifespan, lowering their life’s quality for a few dollars more. Everything we choose, we must give something up.

Think of it as a trade.

Junk food for carrots and smoothies, long sleepless nights that will permenately harm your system to complete a task faster. It’s all a big trade, which we are making without even realizing every single day, and not just once. Our lives are full of choises and the quality of our life, whether we become successful, rich, fit, happy or anything for that being, is in the hands of our daily trades, what we choose to let into our lives and what we cut. Life is what we make of it.

There’s your self-help.

 

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True Confidence – A Simple Guide On How To Easily Achieve It

People often ask me:

“What is true confidence and how is one able to achieve such thing?”

 

First off, let me explain what can not be considered to be True confidence…

Pretty much all of us tend to let everything that’s external influence us. Let’s say you buy a cool looking car with stripes and V8 engine that makes your panties wet. I bet you feel like you’re in seven heaven right after when you get the car. Your self-worth, self-image and most of all – self-esteem have skyrocketed through the roof because of this one simple purchase. Now, tons of insecurity is followed by such action. You’ll be unable to sleep next night because maybe someone is out there scratching your car. Maybe someone has noticed your sweet lil’ automobile and is planning to either smash or steal it. Why? Because you care about your car.

 

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Now ask yourself – why do you care? Because it cost you lots of money? Sure, that’s true. You feel such as if someone destroyed it then you’d be miserable without it. Losing your new car would be a major catastrophe¬†for¬†you.

Ask yourself this next question – why are you so keen in your new car? The main reason is always the same – it makes you feel good. It makes you feel good about yourself, your life and it makes you look cool in your own eyes. You have this ideal self in mind that possesses a car such as this and now that you have it, you’ve lived up to your ideal expectation. Losing it however would mean you’ll go back to your old life, a life without a cool car, therefore you won’t be cool.

 

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To make it perfectly clear to you – you care so much about the car because you identify with your own imaginary ideal character that in your mind possesses such items. We all have an idea in our heads about the guy or girl that we’d love to be like.¬†It can be your favourite actor, movie star, a famous singer or whatever, the point is that you know who you’d like to be if a chance was given for it. You want to be just like him. You want to possess his character traits. You want to be perceived and treated as him. Therefore, buying that car helps.

A big problem with this way of thinking is that you’re being superficial. You’re looking at what he or she is wearing, what she owns and what he acts like, but you’re not looking into his head. You don’t know how that person thinks and what makes him be such a cool persona whose ways you’d like to adopt for yourself.

Here’s an important fact for you – acting, saying, dressing and buying things like your¬†ideal person does is not what makes you look like him. You might look like him considering your external image, but your ways of living do not add up, therefore you’ll always be a lot more lame version of who you’d like to be. If your ideal person is charismatic, then you would not be charismatic. You are not going to have that effect on people by focusing on the external.

And on top of all this, no one is able to play a character better than the guy that IS that character. No actor is able to portray someone better than that very same person. The only person who can play¬†you the best, is you. Therefore, trying to be someone you’re not will always be weaker than just living up to your true self.

 

But…how to create your own true self to be that cool person who you have always aspired to be? How to have that true confidence and charisma?

 

In order to have true confidence that just sparks out of you everywhere you go can only be achieved when one starts looking inward. It’s not about how you look like, but how you feel and think. Notice that I put the word “feel” in front of “think”. Why is that? Well, the way you feel is more important than how and what you think. And when you feel just right, then your thoughts will follow in the right direction.

A perfect example about how important confidence really is, can be seen  in the movie called Harry Potter and  the half blood prince. Ron thought of himself as a mediocre quidditch player. He did not belive in his ability to be good at it and was really scared of the upcoming ballgame that he participates in. Harry, seeing his friend in trouble, supposedly gives him the elixir called Liquid Luck, that is known to have the effect of destroying all your fear and giving you major confidence. Generally in sports, when you get frightened, it’s over. Ron goes off to win the game with a feeling that he will beat everyone against him. In the end it’s revealed that Harry did not use the elixir on Ron. He just thought Harry did. As we can see, Ron won purely just because he believed in his abilities.

Funny, how this stuff works, eh.

 

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True confidence comes from how you feel in every situation life throws at you. If you feel good, you’ll feel confident. And I’m not talking about short-term pleasure such as eating junk food. This arises the next question – how can one feel good in every situation?

The answer is simple. One must believe in himself. One must feel such as if he’d dominate every venue, every room, every anything and truly believe it!

“Past actions and outcomes will shape the idea of what will happen in certain situations.”

In order to feel as if you’re the shit, as if you’re¬†bigger than life, extremely powerful and ready to rock in any situation if needed…one must have positive reference experiences behind him to back up such claims. And those are really simple to get. Let’s say you want to lose weight, go and talk to a girl and have sex with her, make more money…go ahead and get busy, start achieving your goals without excuses. Reference experiences build up your confidence. Therefore, once you’re able to run a marathon or whatever, you won’t be basing your feeling of self-worth on external values such as cars, houses, looks or anything other that’s outside of yourself. Your newfound true confidence now comes from your feelings and thoughts, your ability to stand by your word and get shit done, to be able to manage life. On top of that, living such a lifestyle will provide you with fancy cars and houses just because you’ve earned them throughout your actions. But now, you do not even care about those things so much anymore. Therefore, when someone mocks your car or calls you names, you simply don’t care. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone because you know deep down what you’re capable of.

 

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Somebody does not believe you? So what! You believe yourself. That’s all you’ll ever need and also the only thing that matters. You don’t need to own cool things in order to feel cool, you just need to feel as if you could if you had a need for it.

There ya go, ultimate confidence. But, what we’re trying to find here is TRUE confidence, something so strong that it’s impenetrable. This method that I just talked about, praises the idea of achieving it through believing in your own skills and judges you by the ability of how you’re able to take care of yourself. It’s just a stepping stone.

 

 

Real work begins here…

 

The Sly Man’s Approach:

A spiritual guru names Sadguru, a yogi, mystic, poet and a bestselling author has a different approach for the matter of reaching true confidence. This once more proves the point that an ultimate answer most likely does not exist and that life is full of paradoxes such as this. There is not just one answer, there’s plenty. One is probably better than other, but that I leave for yourself to decide since life is mostly relative. Anyway, here we go…

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In the eyes of Sadhguru and anyone else who follows the ways of gurus such as Eckhart Tolle and the late Osho. What their philosophy consists of is embracing the unknown, not knowing what we’re here for and really to caring much about finding out. Instead, focusing on building and creating something that’s appealing and artful. In the words of Sadhguru, a philosopher¬†wastes days and nights looking for answers whereas the enlightened one understands that the world is too big for it to be figured out and therefore enjoys the things he experiences while working on creating something that matters to him.

To a person such as this, life most likely does not have a meaning and even if it does, he is not too keen on finding it out. Instead, he focuses on things that matter and that can be considered by many to be a waste of time or meaningless.¬†You see, in the end it’s all about our value system and what we care about. In the end, it is all about what we give a fuck about and about what we don’t.

Therefore, embrace the grind, enjoy the journey, follow your passion and do not care much about the right route or the most optimal route. Your own inner voice shall be your guide, everything else just feedback.

If you think like this, life really is nothing more but a fun ride for ya, something to write home about. All the fun and tough times, both insidious and satisfying – they’re all the same to you – simply a fun experience.

There ya go, true confidence!

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The Most Powerful Word In The World

 

“I am as bad as the worst, but, thank God, I am as good as the best.” Walt Whitman

To me, the most profound word that I could think of is not really a word, but more like a combination of two words. Oh, what’s the word? This one.

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Iam is the most profound word (or in this case a combination of words) that I have been able to come up with. Why, you might ask. The answer is simple. There is no other expression so powerful and meaningful than this. But then again, why exactly?

In dating or pickup, work, fitness, whatever the subject, best results come for the individual that has a specific mindset. That mindset is extremely unorthodox¬†and involves loads of work on yourself, especially your ego and your perception of how you’re seeing the world at this given time. Many great athletes, business folk, philanthropists, etc…

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…Everyone that have been good at their craft, have had a special desire to be good. They’ve had this inner fire inside themselves, which translates back to their childhood experiences. Many of us have the goal to be approved by our parents, by the world, by a girl that we used to love yet she never actually paid any attention to us…

Some of us are motivated by money since there was a lack of comfort in their childhood. Some of us like Gary Vaynerchuk¬†grew up in a big family, a poor family, the kind of family that had to share toilet paper due to not having enough money to go and buy another pack. Talk about adversity…

I cannot even imagine how tough it must have been for Gary!

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And then there are those who embrace the grind, the ones that enjoy chaos and love to work on their ideas. These people are extremely self-motivated, have their values in check and are pretty much impenetrable as far as their perception and ego goes. You could say anything to a person who falls under this category, and they would not care. n fact, they would most likely not even pay attention to your comment since they have a strong sense of belief in their mind. These kind of people know what they want to do in life and they actually do it. Without excuses!

Now…

The IAM people.

The Iam people are a completely different case. To be an Iam person…one must not feel the need to complete something, one must not have a deep desire to achieve something, one must not do anything in their life in order to get something out of it either for themselves, their family or anyone else. The Iam people are the ones that ARE their endeavour. These are the people who identify with their profession, passion or whatever the hell you wanna call it, so freaking hard that they see themselves as that very same thing.

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Me, for an example, see myself as game. I no longer go out to pick up chicks, to sell my personality to different beautiful women with an idea to have sex with them. I no longer even want to offer something, I no longer even feel like picking up chicks just to offer girls a wonderful experience with an experienced guy. Now…I feel as I am the game. I am pickup. I am seduction.

Do not get this confused! I am NOT a pickup artist. I am NOT a womanizer. I am NOT a fucking “Label”.

I. Simply. Am.

IAM  

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That’s the beauty of it. I simply just am. You simply just are. We all are. This is probably the deepest thought I’ve ever been able to share with anyone. If you think you get it, like for real, TRULY GET IT, then I’ll give you biiig props! It took me 21 years to finally get it and while I’m writing this, I am still learning more about it!

It’s all an ongoing process.

IAM is a state where one identifies himself with their craft. You no longer need motivation, you no longer need to force yourself into doing something. Doing the deed seems so natural that doing it or not never becomes a debate.¬†Your craft becomes as easy and natural as breathing. And not because you’ve become used to it, but because of understanding that it’s the right thing to do. Being fully in the present, feeling the energy flow through you and approaching your endeavour like it’s the most proper thing in the world to do.

And without questioning!

Think of it as force in the Star Wars Trilogy. Once you fully own the force is when you start identifying yourself with it instead of just bluntly using it.

How does one reach such level?

IAM is all about understanding the dynamics of our world, seeing other person’s perspective and realizing how all of our pictures actually play together on this grand scheme of things. A wise man once said there are 7 billion different truths in the world, because at that given time there were around 7 billion people on the planet. That’s true, we all have our own perception¬†of the world that we believe to be true. Some of us are spiritual gangsters, some of us spend all of our time making money and creating a name for themselves, some enjoy the little things and stay home with their kids…

We all believe in a different truth. Can you understand it all? No. Never.

This realization itself is the truth.

Funny, eh. A fucking paradox.

As I’m writing this, I’ve realized that I have not been able to properly explain the phenomenon of IAM. And I realize that I might never be able to do so. Is it enlightenment? Who knows. Is it the ultimate truth? Who the fuck knows. The beauty is that we do not even need to know. Every person is capable of living a fulfilling life without ever understanding the ultimate truth. Play on your instincts, your desires…even on your ego.

Therefore, I’ll end it with this.

Maybe one day…

Feel free to message me for an individual in-depth (free) talk.