Exactly How Important It Is To Practise A Speech?

When celebrity comedian Jerry Seinfeld finally got his first chance at the big time – a six-minute spot on The Tonight Show, he practised those six minutes of spotlight for six months. As he recalls: ” By the end of those six months you could have slapped me, shaken me, or held me under water, I would have still given you those six minutes with pitch perfect timing.”

 

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Charisma takes practise. Steve Jobs, who appeared so masterful on stage, was known to rehearse important presentations relentlessly. Just as a duck appears to be sailing smoothly on the surface of a lake while powerfully paddling below the waterline, it takes a whole lot of effort for a presentation to appear effortless. When a speech is important I practise untill every breath is perfect, because knowing I’ve got a speech so well mastered allows me to be spontaneous during it. I know that I have muscle memory to fall back on.

When you know that a particular presentation will have a significant impact on your career it’s worth rehearsing untill you feel that it’s part of your solid bones. One interesting technique used by magicians is to run through the entire presentation once with their eyes closed. Another good practise is to have your speech audiotaped or, better yet, videotaped and to count what professional speakers call irritants.

These are any sounds or movements that do not add to your message. Because the audience is watching your every move, every sound and facial expression you make is a form of communication that demands a portion of their attention. Be strategic: make sure you’re getting value out of each nonverbal gesture you make, and limit superfluous gestures to avoid wasting any bit of your audience’s attention.

 

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If you’ve been videotaped, ask three people to point out any unnecessary gestures – any tics or distractions. If you’ve been audiotaped, have the speech transcribed and ask them to note every “um” and “ah”. Be sure to not do it yourself – it’s much harder to hear your own irritants, and transcription services ae inexpensive.

And if you can, perform the entire speech at least once in front of a live audience as a trial run.

 

But…

There is another technique that I like to call free-flow, or free-flowing. It’s when you feel so much at ease with yourself AND with your topic that you do not even care to prepare at all. It’s something that’s being practised in a dating company called Real Social Dynamics and it relies entirely on the speaker’s charisma, their ability to be at ease when on stage and them having a grand pool of knowledge that a single 3 hour speech would barely scratch. It’s always good to rehearse and be ready for your speech, yet if you’re feeling like experimenting with something new and something that makes you feel even more authentic than the best speaker is the world with his rehearsed speech – do it.

Keep in mind that in most cases most of the audience knows less about the subject than you do, so to be not fully prepared and have this vibe of “I don’t know what I’m going to talk about but fuck it, I’ll do it anyway” will help you to connect much better with the crowd.

 

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The Reason Why You Should Find A Mentor, Starting Today

Think big.

After reading a book called Total Recall by Arnold Schwarzenegger I got myself thinking about all the life lessons he shared in the book. One of the most important ones was to think big. It was something that Arnold prioritized a lot and is also one of the reasons why he was such a successful person. Just in case you don’t know what this guy did, let me point it out:

7 Time Mr Olympia (Worlds Best Bodybuilder for seven years)

Highest paid actor in the 80s/90s

Became a multimillionaire before the age of 30 by buying real estate

Married into the Kennedy bloodline

Governor of California (two times)

So basically he is an Austrian-American actor, filmmaker, businessman, investor, author, philanthropist, activist, former professional bodybuilder and former politician.

“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”

This guy has literally done it all, achieved massive success is more than just one field and written his name in the history books as one of the greatest men who ever lived. How did he do it? How was it possible for him? That’s the question that has been running in my mind lately. Sure, he had work ethic, willpower, brains, courage and much more, but how did he develop all that? That’s the big question. How can we be like him? What must we do? What books should we read? Who’s advice should we take?

The more I think about, the best answer I can come up with that would change the lives of any man or woman and make them one of the greatest persons who ever lived, is having mentors. I believementors are one of the most important things that we could have. It does not matter whether we’re Arnold, Muhammad Ali, Steve Jobs or any of these great people right away. It does not matter at all, because all this can be developed by putting ourselves into the right kind of environment, letting the right information in and learning from the people who we want to be like. Anybody has the capacity to change and become the next Arnold, IF they get the right kind of direction. This is where mentors come in, since their teachings, their influence will literally change the person’s world view, who’s listening.

This is what’s wrong in the world. This is why it’s so easy to feel lost. The lack of mentors. Who do we have guiding our way? You have to go out and find people who have done it before, learn from them and then apply it. They can shorten the path so that we would not have to fail so much. Learn from mistakes, they do not all have to be yours.

Now we get to the second part. Having mentors is one thing, but what’s the point of having them if we do not listen or take their advice? None. For them it’s like talking to a wall. Point being — we have to be open-minded and not judge the information right away. Conviction is the enemy of truth. Once we have developed a view on something, we cannot see it from a neutral point of view, because we’re buyest to the outcome. Be open-minded and don’t let the convictions, rumors or anything else shape your own judgement. Once we understand that all information is neutral and it’s up to us whether we want to believe it or not, we’re able to do great things with our life.

In conclusion, two things to remember from this article:

Find Mentors (real life people, books etc.)

Be Open-Minded and listen without instant conviction

How To Learn ANYTHING For FREE

Today, in our day and age we literally have every single door open for us to just jump through and find whatever it is that we’re looking for. This is mostly because of the information era that we’ve embarked on. Whatever our desires might be, whichever it is that we’re trying to achieve in the world today, the ground work has already been done for you. What I mean by this is we literally have every single step already laid out for us, the road has already been constructed. All we have to do is to follow it. However, there is one problem and that’s the order of things, the order of information. It’s not a clear step by step road, since every single step stands alone. What we have to do is to find the steps and put them in the right order ourselves.

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If we’re to buy a program that claims to have all the steps laid out for us, then they’re probably right. Buying a program has massive benefits and will boost your performance by quite a lot. What it does is that it cuts out the part of the job that consists of finding the information by ourself and figuring out these steps on our own. At first this seems like a great thing, buying programs and paying money to get to the place we want much sooner. On the other hand it’s not optimal and will set us up for failure unless the program costs a lot. The more value we invest in something, the more importance it has in our lives. Our brain tends to give a much higher value to things that cost more.Let’s say you’ve bought two online programs on marketing, one for 300£ and the other one for 5000£. Which one are you inclined to pick up first? Everyone would pick the one that costs more since we assume it holds more value. Also, you paid a lot more for it so it would make sense for you to complete it first just to so to say “pay off the depth” on your own mind. If you had a 300£ program and a 20£ book, you’d pick the program over the book just because it makes more sense to use first.

Now let’s talk about the other value that we use to buy programs and books. That’s called time. Programs and books are nothing more than just our own experiences in this case. Let’s say you’ve spent years figuring out online marketing and finally, you’ve done it. It feels like you’ve achieved something great and that it’s your calling just because it took you so long. Let’s compare this to buying a program and figuring the same stuff out in a month. No matter what price you paid for it, the value you hold it to will never be the same. Time is the most valuable asset we own and in our consciousness we all know it. Bottom line — you’ll always value the thing you figure out yourself more than the one you spend money on to master much quicker.

As humans, emotions control a big part of our lives. Emotion is much stronger than money or any other value. At the end of the day we all buy emotions and feelings, not things. We buy a car to feel good about ourselves, we buy chocolate to feel good, we buy nice clothes to get validation from others and that’s also a search for emotions. We buy emotions. We buy our happiness.

How to detach yourself from buying your happiness and get it for FREE

Do you remember how I started this article?

“Today, in our day and age we literally have every single door open for us to just jump through and find whatever it is that we’re looking for.”

This means exactly that everything can actually be free. We do not need to buy programs with the “get rich quick” pitches and basically just force through them. That’s not fun not rewarding for the soul. In this day and age every piece of information we could ever require is already on the internet and in books. To pay someone for picking that stuff out for us is simply just taking away our own fun and paying someone else to have it for us. I for an example have not bought a program in years that will teach me to do something much quicker and has all the steps laid out for me before I even start. That type of style makes me just want to quit the endeavour right there. There is no mystery, there is no fun. It’s too black and white. Life should not be black and white, life is supposed to be enjoyed. How to enjoy life? By taking every single experience and situation as a learning experience and embrace everything that happens simply because that’s the only way. Life does not give you what you want, it gives you what you need. Learn to love the things that you need and you’ll have a successful and a very happy life.

We have two choices:

1.Buy the information that has been processed to our needs and follow the steps in a really blunt and boring way, but get there faster. Easy to get burned out with this method, hard to make it last and will not build leverage on the endeavour. This is the method of Force aka pure willpower.

2.Discover the information on your own by reading, googling, by using the trial and error method. Enjoy the road of mastery and discovery, learn slower, but also more and put some meaning behind it to create a solid foundation that’s unbreakable. This path is not for those who grind through everything, it’s for those who work with pleasure. When we work with pleasure, we won’t burn out. This is the method of Power aka wisdom and understanding the way of life.

Both of these can get you to where you want to get, but the road is always yours to choose. One of them will make your life complete, other one will rush through it.

Today, in our day and age we literally have every single door open for us to just jump through and find whatever it is that we’re looking for. This is mostly because of the information era that we’ve embarked on. Whatever our desires might be, whichever it is that we’re trying to achieve in the world today, the ground work has already been done for you. What I mean by this is we literally have every single step already laid out for us, the road has already been constructed. All we have to do is to follow it. However, there is one problem and that’s the order of things, the order of information. It’s not a clear step by step road, since every single step stands alone. What we have to do is to find the steps and put them in the right order ourselves.

If we’re to buy a program that claims to have all the steps laid out for us, then they’re probably right. Buying a program has massive benefits and will boost your performance by quite a lot. What it does is that it cuts out the part of the job that consists of finding the information by ourself and figuring out these steps on our own. At first this seems like a great thing, buying programs and paying money to get to the place we want much sooner. On the other hand it’s not optimal and will set us up for failure unless the program costs a lot. The more value we invest in something, the more importance it has in our lives. Our brain tends to give a much higher value to things that cost more.Let’s say you’ve bought two online programs on marketing, one for 300£ and the other one for 5000£. Which one are you inclined to pick up first? Everyone would pick the one that costs more since we assume it holds more value. Also, you paid a lot more for it so it would make sense for you to complete it first just to so to say “pay off the depth” on your own mind. If you had a 300£ program and a 20£ book, you’d pick the program over the book just because it makes more sense to use first.

Now let’s talk about the other value that we use to buy programs and books. That’s called time. Programs and books are nothing more than just our own experiences in this case. Let’s say you’ve spent years figuring out online marketing and finally, you’ve done it. It feels like you’ve achieved something great and that it’s your calling just because it took you so long. Let’s compare this to buying a program and figuring the same stuff out in a month. No matter what price you paid for it, the value you hold it to will never be the same. Time is the most valuable asset we own and in our consciousness we all know it. Bottom line — you’ll always value the thing you figure out yourself more than the one you spend money on to master much quicker.

As humans, emotions control a big part of our lives. Emotion is much stronger than money or any other value. At the end of the day we all buy emotions and feelings, not things. We buy a car to feel good about ourselves, we buy chocolate to feel good, we buy nice clothes to get validation from others and that’s also a search for emotions. We buy emotions. We buy our happiness.

How to detach yourself from buying your happiness and get it for FREE

Do you remember how I started this article?

“Today, in our day and age we literally have every single door open for us to just jump through and find whatever it is that we’re looking for.”

This means exactly that everything can actually be free. We do not need to buy programs with the “get rich quick” pitches and basically just force through them. That’s not fun not rewarding for the soul. In this day and age every piece of information we could ever require is already on the internet and in books. To pay someone for picking that stuff out for us is simply just taking away our own fun and paying someone else to have it for us. I for an example have not bought a program in years that will teach me to do something much quicker and has all the steps laid out for me before I even start. That type of style makes me just want to quit the endeavour right there. There is no mystery, there is no fun. It’s too black and white. Life should not be black and white, life is supposed to be enjoyed. How to enjoy life? By taking every single experience and situation as a learning experience and embrace everything that happens simply because that’s the only way. Life does not give you what you want, it gives you what you need. Learn to love the things that you need and you’ll have a successful and a very happy life.

We have two choices:

1.Buy the information that has been processed to our needs and follow the steps in a really blunt and boring way, but get there faster. Easy to get burned out with this method, hard to make it last and will not build leverage on the endeavour. This is the method of Force aka pure willpower.

2.Discover the information on your own by reading, googling, by using the trial and error method. Enjoy the road of mastery and discovery, learn slower, but also more and put some meaning behind it to create a solid foundation that’s unbreakable. This path is not for those who grind through everything, it’s for those who work with pleasure. When we work with pleasure, we won’t burn out. This is the method of Power aka wisdom and understanding the way of life.

Both of these can get you to where you want to get, but the road is always yours to choose. One of them will make your life complete, other one will rush through it.