I haven’t been posting much recently, but this topic is just wayyyy to important for me to not share!
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I came across this guy recently who had an interesting question for me…
How can I make my girlfriend go down on me? How can i have her do every kinky thing I crave for?
Basically, what this guy was asking is how to make a girl do anything you want from her, like for instanse – how to make her be a dirty little slut for you or how to make her be a great girlfriend for you that doesn’t sleep around. Or, more importantly and perhaps even more specifically – how to have your girlfriend please you in bed any way you want.
And the answer is simple, but, for that, we need to go back to the basics.
A few years ago there was this video going around on the internet about two guys walking up to girls, not saying anything else other than just a simple:
“Put your number in my phone.”
Surprisingly, there were a huge bunch of women that said yes or just acted as the man said. Now, why did they do that?
Let me clear this up for you guys, because I love you. I really do. Lol.
Those two guys that were in that video were not demanding nor threatening in any way. What they were instead, was sure of themselves. They acted in such manner that any girl that they approached would feel this sense of entitlement instantly, they would feel leadership. And what does that tell you, about the question that I uplifted right in the beginning of this post and about women’s biological response system?
Women go for leadership, they go for the guy that knows what he wants and is not afraid to show it. They want a guy that is unapologetic for his cravings and at the same time aware of the situation and ready to make amends when the shit goes wrong. Not in a beta-male kind of way, but by understanding that she’s not ready for that kind of thing yet, therefore toning it down a bit and go about from there.
See what I mean?
A man that’s alpha-like and leading, yet at the same time can understand the social dynamics and knows when to back off, yet be unapologetic for his actions, therefore understanding the feelings of both parties.
How to make the woman do anything you want?
Tell her what you want without being needy nor demanding, instead be entitled, leading and sincerely sympathetic.
Just tell her what you expect from her in a loving, caring, yet leading way.
Learning how to keep your girlfriend is an interesting topic, since this blog is mainly about picking up new girls and increasing your lay count as a man, one can’t help not to think how keeping your girlfriend and misogyny in general is related to such lifestyle.
Let me tell you this one thing…
In life there are different periods of which we go through. One year you might want to dedicate on getting laid with different girls as much as possible and the other you might want to find a quality girlfriend that would satisfy you and support you through life as a worthy companion. Needless to say, you know where I am at this stage of life due to writing this blog post. Haha.
Many guys think keeping a girlfriend means pleasing her in every way she asks for. This is false.
Do not get me wrong, a caring and loving man is what women want more than anything, but this comes with a twist. Are you ready?
Women want a loving and caring man who doesn’t compromise his own goals in other to please his women. Women don’t want a guy who sacrifices his goals and ambitions in life just to make his woman happy. That’s a beta male quality that screams of scarcity and insecurity.
Just think about it.
If Albert Einstein or Elon Musk gave up on his grandiose life goals just to be with a woman, then their destiny would be screwed up. I don’t believe in destiny, but you get the idea. Funny enough, women crave for a man who is loving and caring deep down and who wants the best for her, yet who lives up to his own values and is willing to lose her at any moment if it comes between her and his destiny.
I can’t empasize this enough!
Women want a guy that has a clear path in life, at least in his own eyes whatever it might be (even play video games for fuck sake, it doesn’t matter as long as you’re sure of yourself). For an alpha male, women are meant to be a side quest that empower their life, but are NOT THEIR LIFE.
I see this concept, guys trying so hard to keep their woman, on a street almost every day. I can see it in their eyes. They would want to go and check out a souvenir store, get a cup of coffee of maybe even go and greet a random woman who they find appealing, yet they are limited to do so since they seem to not let go of their woman’s hand even for five minutes.
The other day I was out exploring the nature of my country with my lovely girlfriend and I came across this swing that was meant for children. Being an inner child and whatnot, I left my girlfriend staring at the sea to go and swing there for a while without saying a word.
She notices, she comes towards me and starts creating drama, playfully of course. She asked why am I such an asshole and doesn’t even tell her where I’m going. Now, if you know the social dynamics between a man and a woman, you know that women LOVE to create drama unconsciously just to test their man and feel his manliness, which is expressed in an act of freedom and followed by an act of being perfectly fine with it.
Therefore, I told her to not worry and pulled her on top of me, she started to laugh and giggle, her face was filled with joy since I past the so-called “shit test” as we would say in the world of pickup.
If you compromise your own life for someone else, you’ll end up being the beta male, which is not attractive at all. If you only think about yourself and don’t care for the people, especially women around you, you’ll end up being an alpha aka the asshole.
The goal here is to be a caring asshole, who does what he wants, but shows some empathy and solves drama that his girl creates like it’s not even a big deal.
Which by the way – isn’t.
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The #1 mistake of the NICE guy…
“If a women gets to know me.. Then she will want to have sex with me”
Women don’t usually have sex with a man they have gotten to know.
They usually try to get to know a man they want to have sex with..
The mistake men make is playing it too safe and not risking either offending by being real.
Women either feel the tension or they don’t..”
Dr Robert glover “No more nice guy” book is a pure example of this.
I got another message from a student who had coaching with me a few months a go about how FREE he feels.
Literally feel like a new man now! After our session I’m seeing everything completely different. I understand the mistake I was making, this has changed everything for me. I was just focused wrong and my view of women didn’t help, I used to be both afraid to express how I felt, now I’m excited and I’m just starting.
On the day of his training he said he felt he was “being creepy”.
But, with some guidance and coaching…
He came to terms with his own sexuality. He was able to understand his masculinity. The whole of not having it figured out stopped becoming a burden.
His intentions became aligned.
The crazy thing about this is…
We only chatted for a about an hour!
He literally changed that day, I could see it.
Then we interacted with some very beautiful women, he used the tools I provided (ways of leveraging his beliefs..not actual drills and hammers) and now he sees this area of his life completely different.
Now he is constantly sending me pictures of girls he has slept with to me.
(He literally can’t believe it…)
On the day of our coaching he told me some stories about different women who had either flaked on him or he had become some kind of GAY best friend to that girl, girls he chased for months with them giving him mixed signals. It is a common theme.. And it’s always the same mistake. Guys are afraid of their sexuality and are afraid to express it. I provide a safe place for guys to be very honest about the things they end up going through because of sexual shame.
It took a while for me to get over these myself..
I had to find a safe person to talk to.
I had to find myself again and come back into alignment with who I really was.
A lot of the guys who are already practicing pickup are ignoring their deep-seated shame.
They feel on some level some form of guilt.
I enjoy releasing them from the prison of being oppressed.
Some don’t even realize they are…
Some are convinced that they just want to learn the ADVANCED TRICK that they think will “make her attracted”.
I tell them it won’t matter unless you are truly showing up as you..
I tell them this is it.. You will keep showing up this way.. Present and as a man of action.
Your intentions become clear.
It’s powerful stuff and keeping this responsibly up as a man can be overwhelming for some.
Sadly, most of us can’t handle it at first and can slip back into old habits.
This is where one has to keep reaffirming his students these new beliefs they’ve learnt.
Soon, they are a new person! Good times ahead!
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Guess what, bro.
You can’t control other people. Trying to do so will cause pain and suffering and anxiety, and that leads to a whole waterfall of issues that become very difficult to stop.
You can complete control over yourself, if you choose to have it. However, you don’t have control over other people. You can influence them in a way of your own choosing, but you can never fully play them as a marionette doll. You just can’t, because life does not work that way.
As for dating,
You can’t control the reaction which the girl will give you. You can’t control her liking or loving or hating you. You can’t do that, that’s up to her and her own blueprint, of which personality type she fancies and who she’s attracted to.
We can influence the girl’s reactions by changing our own state, our own mood, our own personality according to our own will. You can influence who you’re going to be in the next few minutes, in the next few months, in the next few years.
The law of state transfer.
Whatever you feel, they feel to a certain degree. If you’re okay with your own value system, your job, your physical appearance, your financial situation, your parents etc.
Then they will be too. People look for leadership. If you’re fine with a certain situation, then other people will be influenced by you depending on how much authority you have, and begin to shape their own perception according to your own. They unconsciously, without even themselves realizing it, put their fate in your judgement.
This is a powerful too, ecpecially in dating.
Whatever you’re okay with, the girl will be okay with.
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During my years of learning the subtle ways of dating and also teaching it, it has come across my mind that even despite having read books on how to be attractive to women and consuming endless online products on this matter is no use if you do not have certain game plan.
How to have all the aces in your pocket, so to say.
In my case, a year or so back I knew everything there was to know about successfully picking up women from the very first moment I laid my eyes on her. But, it was not enough.
Brain is a tricky thing. Even if we know how to do something, even if we realize that a good diet and exercise, dropping the junk food habit and drinking less alcohol will make you lose weight, we have a hard time actually fully going for it, we struggle with the execution of our own plans and living up to our own values.
Let’s say you know how to lose weight (because come on, we all do), but you’re still a bit chubby and it is in your value system to be fit and healthy. Now, if you value a good look and a functional body so highly, then why are you not living up your own values yourself? In fact, why are you not taking action today in order to become that person of your own desire? You do not need to be that person today, but you can strive to become him by taking action today, eating less and going for a run.
Deep down we all know what needs to be done, yet we do not always do it.
It’s the same deal with dating. We know how one is supposed to approach this matter, yet we delve in our own thoughts, looking for an easier way, fantasising what could be if we used our potential, our strength to the fullest. In other words, we know how and who, we just don’t have the willpower to actually put one foot in front of another and do the damn thing.
Therefore, without any further ado, here’s my three step formula to open ANY girl at any place at any time, AND without having your own “weak” self tune in and make you sit there without taking action while that hot girls strolls past you. And not just that, but this formula can be translated into any other area in your life. Sounds freaking amazing, doesn’t it.
Are ya ready?
First right off the bat, notice someone who you would be interested in based on her looks. Stop lying to yourself about her not being hot enough, about her probably having something important to do and you’d be just interrupting her, stop making excuses about why you should not approach her.
Do you know that the act of romance and love tops everything else? You could be late to a meeting, yet that cool guy coming up to you and saying hi would change everything now wouldn’t it? Your day would feel much better, you’d be meeting him again the next day for coffee and so on…
In other words, life would feel easy as fuck if there is something such as romance to live for. We, humans, love that. We love that dynamic more than anything. We are able to sacrifice valuable work time just so that we could have a chat with a potential match.
Therefore, you going up to that girl and she reacting to you is the most important thing she could be doing right now.
The next step is to realize that you’re enough. You are enough in every way possible. Yes, you might now have a Ferrari or a summer beach house to offer to this wonderful girl, but guess what – the guy with those things most likely doesn’t have the balls to approach a random chick on a corner of 5th avenue and actually have his shit together thinking he’s enough during this process. Therefore, if you’re able to do it, then you already have higher value in the eyes of the girl than that other guy with external riches. You have inner riches, which tops external values at any day.
At the end of the day, girls look for romance, not cars or houses. Girls looks for emotions since they’re human. Girls look for a guy that is able to provide them with an interesting story. Sure, Lambos and beach houses help to create a cool story, but if you don’t have what it takes inside yourself, then those fancy cars and houses won’t do you much good.
Therefore, if you’re able to go up to her, then you’re completely enough for her. You’re in her league at least, if not higher.
And the third and final step is easy.
Just do it 😉
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The biggest problem by far that I see in my students is their thought process going about picking up women.
Guys that I coach tend to come from a background that does not support the lifestyle of constantly getting laid with beautiful women at all. Therefore, the mindset these guys possess is extreme technicality and their ability to go about learning pickup as this tremendously complicated thing, such as opening a math book and once they’ve memorized every single algorithm, every single nuance that might hit them, then they’re ready to actually get laid.
In other words,
Guys that I teach tend to look at pickup as a science, on which in order to successfully pick up their first girl one needs to completely understand the concept of how, why, who and when women fuck.
This is most certainly NOT the case.
Don’t get me wrong, picking up women and the art of seduction in general can be pinned down to a very specific science which explains why people tend to do the things that we do and how to play with these facts to create a favorable outcome for a guy to get laid.
Therefore, picking up women IS actually a science.
But, it can also be summed up very easily by understanding this one core principle.
Picking up women is a form of art, since when one is dealing with people and the spontaneity of a human mind there is always a level of confusion and randomness involved. Just think about it and I’ll do my best to describe you this phenomena.
Women have an abundance of dick (aka men). Well, most women do and it’s pretty hard to fuck that up (overeating, extreme negativity, overuse of drugs n alcohol). Men, however, don’t have an abundance of pussy. The way our evolution has made us is that men need to work for women and women need to make themselves hard to get in order to preserve their high value, but also be accessable to the right type of guy of their choosing, since at the end of the day life on earth according to our biology needs to continue.
It’s an endless cat ‘n mouse game.
Realizing this fact is already in many ways enough. Girls go to social gatherings with the idea of finding a cool guy in the back of their mind even if they themselves deny it. Our life as we know it revolves mainly around sex, our primal urge.
Men do the same. They go out to clubs and bars, work hard to make good money and go to gyms in order to be a high value guy, which in end is because we want to be on top of the “sex” pyramid.
And there you have it. Our entire existance is ant-like. We are ants dancing around our creation, being lead by sex. It’s all just like a game, not of any significance to the universe, but of great significance to our own small world.
That is literally it.
Now, if you see pickup as a science that needs to be mastered, then good for you, but you will overcomplicate this dynamic that I just explained you about.
It’s all just a game, and as long as you play it, you’ll get laid eventually, and also get good in the process.
How to get good? Haha, well…
Read my blog. 😉
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