Aaaah, haters! As long as there are people out there doing extraordinary and awesome things, there will be people who criticise them.
Every single person who has ever been great at something, has taken a shitload of criticism from friends, colleagues and even from their own parents. It’s insane how many people try to bring your mood down and discourage you just because you’re doing something that’s out of their comfort zone. Many of them just feel jealous, because they have either failed at some point of their life trying to fulfil their dreams or they have not had the courage to even start. You’re basically projecting their own shortcomings back at them. They also feel like they’re going to lose you to a better social circle. All fair points from their point of view, but isn’t it better to improve yourself as well instead of putting others down for doing something you won’t? I look at it simply as a test. Those, who want to make it, need to be able to take criticism from those, who don’t.
You have to realize that whenever you’re trying to accomplish something big or unorthodox, people will stand in your way. Sometimes even those, who are the most precious to you. They might feel like your idea is too crazy to be successful and they justify it by just looking out for your interest by keeping you safe. In reality, we all wish we could do something big to change the world. Some of us just deny it all their life. Some know they should take action and do something, but they won’t because of fear created by social conditioning. And then there are some, who do. This group of people is sadly so damn small.
Every person, who has done something great, has been criticised, because their ideas are offering too much value for to be considered as normal or they’re just something that has not been done before aka the blueprint does not exist. Every single one of them has been told that their idea is crazy, won’t work and they are childish and stupid to even be thinking about trying this. If you’re a weak-minded person who does not dare to go for the things that you want, then it’s actually quite understandable why you’re hating. It’s just being mad at someone for giving the effort to do something that you never had the will for simply because of mental disabilities such as low confidence, no work ethic and weak influences throughout life.
Criticism shows that you’re doing stuff worth mentioning in history books. Others don’t like it because they do not have the courage to think differently. They feel like their world and the way they see it is in danger because you’re about to crush their reality by showing them that everything is possible if you work hard. So they criticise you because that’s all they can do with that low brain capacity. That’s the only defence mechanism they have.
At the end of the day, crazy ideas make our world evolve. The idea of having electricity was considered crazy at one point and look at us now. Billions of people use electricity in their everyday lives. The idea that a man could run 100 meters under 10 seconds was considered impossible and every athlete who went for it, was considered a hopeless romantic aka the hopeless sportsman, because everyone believed it cannot be done. When the first man crossed that 10 second barrier, many others in the next few years began also breaking that belief and crossing the line, because they saw that what’s possible and what can be done. The blueprint had been created, the road had been crafted. When you set out to do something that not many people have done before and is considered hard, then it’s usually telling you just one thing. Nobody has worked hard enough to get it.
As you see, criticism is bound to always be there. Your vision just has to be strong enough to endure it. If you’re sure of yourself and know, that you can pull it off or at least belive that you have a good chance when you try, then you will not listen to the bullshit that others will say about you. If you know you’re going to reach your goal no matter even if it needs you to move mountains, then all those naysayers will just be a background noise that you won’t even pay attention to. You have a purpose. They don’t. The end result does not even fucking matter. It’s about giving it a shot by giving everything you have inside you untill you either win or die, taking your last breath while swiping tears of joy for because you worked on your destiny and did everything you could on your part. That’s more than most people ever do nor even dream about.
So once again, the thing you need is a strong vision and the ability to belive in yourself when no one else does. That’s what creates a champion. And who is a champion? In my mind it’s someone who never gives up. And when you never give up, then you will win. It might not always be what you set out to get, but it’s something that all of us desperately search for. Happiness. This is the reward of the highest value in our world. Pain is temporary. It might last for a minute, an hour or a day, or even a year. Eventually it will surpass and something else will take its place. That “something”, my dear people, is happiness. Happiness
If you can’t imagine what it’s going to be, don’t ever expect to physically look in the mirror and see it. – Greg Plitt
Vision. It’s a preview of your life’s coming events.
The question is –
Who Are Your True Friends?
Many of us answer to this questions with names such as Mark, Alex, Dima, whatever. But are they really your friends? If you check the definition for the word „friend“, you’ll find „a person who you like and enjoy being with.” Yes, in this case these people who you just mentioned might actually be your friends. But there is another definition. A friend is a person who helps or supports someone or something. This is the breaking point. The people you care the most of, are they helping you to reach your goals or are they rather dragging you down and telling you all the ways your dream can’t work out?
Let’s use the example of a friend that I had. Let’s call him Mike. I used to be fat, almost to the point of obesity. Mike was not as fit himself, but he was definitely not as fat as I was. One day I decided to lose weight and become healthy. Mike pushed me and loaded me up with courage, told me yes I should. He was literally calling me fat so he could feel better about himself. This gave me strength to really go through with it and lose about 40 pounds. I was really healthy and even saw my abs for the first time in my life. When Mike saw me and my success, he began to draw distance from me and even saying I’ve changed. „You’re too much of an asshole“, he said. After hearing that I felt sadness. Not because of what he said about me, but because of the fact that you could see the jealousy in his eyes. We all get jealous sometimes, but the way he did it… he was determined to bring me down rather improving himself just like I did. He could not call me a friend anymore, because every time he saw me, he remembered how he has failed to take action in his life. Mike started avoiding me to protect his small little world from crumbling down.
Later in life I had a realisation with everything else I did that most of the people I knew started to avoid me because of all their failures I reminded them by just being in their sight. You can say that I was cocky. You can say that I was full of myself. Yes. When somebody with a bad stuttering problem loses over 40 pounds and becomes extremely fit, sleeps with hundreds of girls in few years while the other dude struggles to get even one their entire life, writes a book at a very young age and makes more money than all his friends, then yes, you do feel like you are better than other people. What else do you call someone who creates the will to better himself despite of most of his friends just drinking their lives away, playing video games and doing absolutely nothing to get smarter. I would call it a better man. A more successful man. And with success, confidence follows. And confidence is easily mistaken for being an asshole.
Most of the people I knew, I can’t call them friends anymore. I would still hang out with them and for the love of everything in the world, I’d LOVE to help them anyway I can, but they were not supportive, they tried so hard to keep me in the world of mediocrity. They were not my real friends.
I want you to think about your life and the people you spend time with. If they are not supporting you in your goals, just cut them loose. They will keep you down permanently if you let them. You can come back later and help them, but while you’re struggling so hard and need all the help you can get, removing all the people who are negative towards you will help a lot. If you stay on the path of self-development, you’ll meet great people who support each other, because your change will motivate and inspire them. It’s a beneficial for all of you. Besides, it’s in human nature to support each other. Only fools will try to push someone who is actually trying, away just to save themselves from reality and work.
If you’re someone who is ambitious, eager to learn and determined to reach your goals in life, then be kind and treat people with respect. Motivate them when they need it the most and be there for them during dark times. Those, who don’t treat you that way back, cut them loose.