On Dating…


Dating lots of girls is a great accomplishment. I’ve done that. More than most men.

Having a relationship with super beautiful feminine girls is also amazing. Have done that too.

But there’s no greater accomplishment for a man, when it comes to relationships or anything in life, than to be a man connected to his masculine energy no matter what. A man who doesn’t stop being who he truly is. A man that is strong, focused, resilient, fulfilled and centered, whether he’s single and dating no one, or single and dating many girls casually or in a relationship with the most powerful, beautiful feminine crazy girl you could imagine. Because believe me, if you’re minimizing yourself now while you’re single and dating no one, you will definitely be minimized in a relationship, by your own self and by the woman.



Make this your biggest goal my friend. Forget about being fucking hungry to be in a relationship, or to fuck many women, nothing will fulfill you and make you feel truly free and in power, no matter how incredible the other person is, unless you stop making yourself and your life small, and being pity and judgmental with you. Grab your balls and be a man. Regardless of your current “status”. You are not your status. Your power doesn’t come from your status. Your power comes from who you are regardless of what you have or who you’re with.



Make your goal and priority to be the masculine energy you down deep are, that powerful force that moves forward every single day in one way or another, and doesn’t get stuck in suppression and limitation from others or his own mind, make your goal to be truly free, free of everything that’s killing you, free of having to be in a relationship or out of a relationship to feel powerful and fulfilled.


Want to go deeper?


Have a strong desire to find out more about women?


Do you happen to identify yourself as a guy who’s willing and passionate and won’t give up?




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How I Stopped Caring About Discomfort (+ My Own Story)

To make a following point, it is necessary for me to share my story.

Let’s begin.

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Ages 1-7

As a youngster just about to go to school I had very little friends. In fact, none. Other kids around me were playing with each other, building sad castles, enjoying their time in the park playing soccer. Me however spent the entire day with my grandparents, because the outside world was too dangerous for me, at least that’s what my mother kept telling me.

Ages 7-13

When I went to school I did absolutely everything in my power in order to please my parents. I did my homework every single time it was due, and not just that, but I started with writing my papers right after the assignment had been assigned. The task could have been due next week or even next month, yet I started right away, because my mother told me to do so. This went on for about 6 years.

Ages 13-17

As I was in 7th grade, I started to care less about rules and played around a lot more, hence the beginning of receiving mediocre grades. I still passes, but the test scores weren’t perfect or at least close to perfection. This angered my parents of course, especially my mother, you gave me a TV/Computer ban and also reduced my time with friends quite a bit to the point of almost having no freedom at all.

My home situation was a mess, I was scared to fail yet I did not feel like studying at all. I did enough to just pass and then endured my mother’s rage. I escaped into video games and spent all my “homework” time secretly reading comic books under the blanket. therefore, my grades flunked even more. When my mother found that out…needless to say, she was not happy at all. You can picture why.

Ages 17-19

As I was about to finish school, I discovered fitness. Bodybuilding, to be exact. Since I had nothing to hold on to emotionally at this point, I threw myself into that world, which started to consume all of my time. I became more confident, I started to give less of a shit about criticism and rules, and I became totally obsessed with my self-image to a point of almost starving myself to death. True story. But, I did not get much attention from women, nonetheless, despite even looking like a professional athlete.


PS: I think this is what I always wanted. To be loved by women because my mother never gave me any validation and was always asking for more than I was emotionally capable to handle at that point.


Ages 19+

This is when my new life began. This is the life I’m still living to this day. This was the time when I discovered game and the art of seduction. The science of empowering every area of your life through picking up chicks. This was the biggest transformation I had ever gone through. Oh, how did it feel?



Fucking amazing.

For most of my life I was running away from discomfort, only to find comfort in even more discomfort. Pickup challenged my life in more ways than school ever did, yet it is much more complicated, requires much more willpower and is MUCH more scary. Therefore,I reached a revelation.

Trying to avoid discomfort does not make you comfortable.


We all have pain bodies within us. According to Eckhart Tolle –

The painbody is my term for the accumulation of old emotional pain that almost all people carry in their energy field. I see it as a semi-autonomous psychic entity. It consists of negative emotions that were not faced, accepted, and then let go in the moment they arose.

In much simpler words, a pain body is something we all have deep within us and that’s mostly different for each of us. Once we realize that it’s there, a grand load of discomfort falls of our backs. Me for an example have always been keen on making women like me because due to my childhood “trauma” as some would say, I did not get enough of it from my parents (keep in mind that my father also barely saw me and when he did, he criticized).

You will most likely have something different, or maybe even you’re the same case as me. Point being – everybody has something. No-one’s cut from a different cloth, meaning we are designed to get hurt in some way or another. We all have something that’s meaningful, therefore a hurtful topic for us. And that pain body guides us through life.

My mentors have pretty much all the same complex called the helper. They get joy in helping other human beings and they are doing it with extreme passion. Sounds really nice on paper, am I right? The servant of people, offering value wherever they can. But in reality, they are hurt deep within, having this deep sense of need to help others that are not getting the right treatment. Sounds like a noble cause, yet it’s all based on a perverted pleasure. Luckily, that pleasure can be easily put into a good use and is highly valued.

Pain bodies guide our career choices, shape our relationships and are overall a HUGE influence. To free yourself from them – hehe, you’re reading the wrong article.


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The True Reason Why Life Can Hurt Like Hell

“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.”

Here’s the thing…

Pain is never the issue. The real issue that people rarely talk about is how we’re reacting to the pain, how we let it influence us and what effect this entire process has on our future in regards of relationships, financial success, fitness goals or anything else for that matter.

I’ve gone over this concept in every single book that I’ve written and I’m here to do this again, again and again, so this idea must be holding a strong reason of importance.

The problem we, the people, have with pain is our labeling. We always tend to label things as good or bad despite actually thinking calmly and using some fucking common sense. We see things we don’t like as bad and things we like as good.


On top of this we do things we don’t like while telling ourselves it’s for a greater cause, like getting a proper education, a better paying job and so forth. Everything surrounding this belief is true, since studying hard despite not liking the material will get you a higher paying job, or at least increases the chances of getting one like that.

Pushing yourself to create something big, to work out or just even getting through that one last lecture can have amazing benefits and is worth paying the price of giving your best effort to.


Hard work can pay off and it can pay off insanely well, and it requires pushing your limits daily, first off to create the habit of not escaping from them and then living by this rule on every single day of the week.

Here’s the deal though. Many of us see this hustle as something that needs to be done, as something that’s unpleasant and done only because it is mandatory to reach higher grounds. But, what’s the reasoning behind reaching success in the first place?


Everything that we are doing in our lives can be tracked down to one single desire. The craving for happiness. We do everything just to be happy. You could say that our body is designed to keep going, to live as long as it can, but even the fear of death, the will to survive exists so that we could experience some more happiness during the time we’ve been given. Why would you want to live in sorrow and depression? You wouldn’t. We see those moments of working hard as the price we pay for those few relaxing moments on Sunday.

I’m here to tell you that this is not what we should live for.

Life can be a lot more than we can imagine. What if I told you that one is capable of enjoying every single moment that he or she comes across? What if I told you that labeling things as good or bad is just your own interpretation and completely not true. Want to know the truth? Alright I’ll tell you. Life is neutral. It’s not good or bad. Life just is. Whether it’s good or bad is your own perception of reality, of how you see it, which is influenced by every single experience you’ve ever had in your life starting from your childhood. Sounds mind-blowing? It should.


I recently came across this book called The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck. This is the best book I’ve ever glazed my eyes on. Now, is this the best book that exists in our world?

Probably not.

It’s the best book in the world for me because it has influenced me the most, it holds the biggest amount of truth that I believe in. This book is the truth. It’s my truth. It is my own perception of reality. Whether this reality of mine is universally true or not holds no importance what so ever, because this is not the issue here.

We are not here to solve this everlasting puzzle of why we’ve been put on planet we call Earth. In fact, it is my strong belief that human kind has no purpose at all. I believe everything we do, see, heart, touch and taste just is.

Everything just is.

Why it is, I do not know nor do I care. I simply don’t care. It’s one of those questions that probably won’t get answered for hundreds of years to come.


So why should I spend my precious mental energy on something that won’t benefit me? I’d rather focus on my own well-being, and also make the people around me at least a little bit happier. This is what I decide to focus on and it has brought me a grand sense of calmness, self-esteem, enlightenment, confidence or whatever the fuck you want to call it. The point is that I’m one hundred percent happy with my life, because happiness is something I choose to be. I could worry about some random dude who got killed ten miles outside of New York due to a random car crash, or I could choose my focus and worry about things that actually matter to me. You can call it ego, you can call it narcissism. I call it being sane. I call it being smart. I call it living the good life.

Choose the fucks you give and where you give them, since they’re limited. Worry about things that hold importance to your life specifically. There are more problems in our world than any of us is able to rap their head around. So why should we? It’s an endless rat race that will bring great amounts of misery, to only be focusing on the negative. Now, I am not saying to be overly positive. Trick is to be a realist, and a smart one since many realists are lacking of brain cells, so to speak. To be a true realist is the greatest pleasure this life can offer.


Back to the topic of pain that has been drifting apart for the past few hundred words…

Pain is inevitable. No matter how big of an optimist you are, at some point you’ll feel pain. There’s no escape. This should not frighten you. A realist understands this concept. Realist understands that pain is a big part of life. Realist does not reject that fact. Realist does not try to hide this fact behind fake optimism. And, a true realist understands that pain is just one part of life, not the entire life.

A true realist sees the full picture, of pleasure and pain. Both exist. Depending on your life situation there’s going to be more of one than the other. Don’t hide away from it. None of these are good nor bad. Pain and pleasure just are. Embrace both sides. Choose the fucks you give, and give them for the right reasons. Since we all are going to experience pain at some point, then why should we see it as a negative? Why should we label something we have no escape from as a negative? It’s like choosing to have negative things in your life. Why would you? Why would anybody?


Enjoy the pleasure, as well as the pain. Embrace both sides. Learn to enjoy the grind, because of the reward and for the sake of enjoying this ride. Life is all a big ride. This ride is all we have right now and all we will ever have. Why would we choose the only thing that we have to be entirely negative?

A true realist enjoys the pain because it will lead to pleasure. Pain is a down payment of success, and I’m not only talking about finance.

It’s everywhere.

To have an amazing relationship one must go through many weak and awful ones to get there. To even have real sex for the first time one needs to step up and talk to the opposite sex. Is it painful? For many of us, yeah. The amount of guys who are unable to have sex due to their own negative beliefs is crazy. To break free from those beliefs is to experience pain, because the ego does not want to change.

Change is frightening.

Change is new.

New is dangerous, since it’s unknown.

So what is left for us to do? Just this one thing.

Embrace chaos. Work for success in life. Any kind of success of your choosing.

Pain will lead to pleasure and vice versa. Pain is not bad. Pleasure is not bad. They both just are. Both exist. Fully realize this, and your life will never be the same again.

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Why Are Rockstars Getting Laid So Much? (The Truth)

Why Are Rockstars Getting Laid So Much?

We are all exposed to the fact that rock stars and famous men overall have a big swarm of women who circle around them and are ready and open for a sexual intercourse with them at any moment. It’s like they have this aura around them that just attracts the opposite sex and does it with a major success. Or maybe those guys are just rich and all the women that wish desperately to get their attention, are all gold-diggers? Let me explain you a woman’s subliminal thought process behind all this by using the example of rock stars, since most of them are overly known to have slept with thousands of women.

A rockstar has many quality traits that make him EXTREMELY attractive to pretty much all women. Many of them don’t even dare to admit this, but the more likely the chances of her to sleep with a rockstar are, they’ll most likely take it. Rockstars possess more than just one trait that makes them attractive and puts them in the top list of guys out there. Let’s take a look at what they are.

A famous singer/rockstar/musician…

is expressing his true self through the music he creates. He is putting his personality out there and risks everything. If it’s not fake and also something that he is outside of the stage life, then it’s attractive as hell. Major confidence, not giving a fuck attitude and doing something that he loves for a living. An authentic self. All quality traits of a successful and smart alpha male who knows what he wants and how to get it.

is rich. Money is not the deciding factor here because he is able to provide, it’s more of a signal, an indicator that the guy has mastered something in his life, and therefore most likely has other valuable traits to offer. It’s called costly signaling. When you have the ability to do something that’s considered hard, you signal that you also have other successful traits. The real reason girls said they life humorous guys is not because women actually like jokes, since they could just watch a comedy show on YouTube at any time they like. Women like funny guys because it’s a costly signal meaning people have to use glucose in their brain to exhibit IQ and wit and all that stuff. All humor ever does, is showing the girl that the guy is witty, smart and worthy to keep around. It’s the same with power, money, fitness and all that kind of high class stuff.

is overall cool thanks to his “live fast die young” lifestyle. Girls are designed to follow guys meaning they’re attractive to this function, this leadership like personality. They care a lot more about man’s ability to lead and be cool, looks and money and fame will always be secondary and viewed as a bonus, not the actual reason why to sleep with you. If you have the first level of attractiveness cleared up in your own head and you fall into the category of having your shit together, then these secondary traits will not be necessary at all. Once again, this is a costly signal of a high value guy.

is loved by tons of other people. This is social proof that the guy really is something special. If so many others like and even love him that much, if so many other women want to be with him also, then he must have something to offer, something of high value. Social proof also eliminates the factor of fear, meaning the guy is probably not a killer or a rapist, so the girl will feel much more safer without the star actually needing to prove it.

We can’t deny the fact that there are also many gold diggers that really go for the money, but at the end of the day, they have feelings and emotions as well as the rest of us. They’re also human. So even if they’re going after financial values, they cannot help to notice other traits that I just described and that the stars usually have, or at least signal to have.

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Become The Next Dating Prodigy In 4 STEPS

Warning! This post might save your dating life.

Anyway, let’s begin…

When I was new to the dating world, not knowing what sparks attraction within a woman, thinking looks matter and therefore starting to work out, trying to get myself down to a low body fat percentage just so that women would approve of me and sexually want to be with me, I had major troubles with getting girls to actually like me. Needless to say I did achieve my fitness goals and looked freaking amazing without a shirt, but the results with women did not add up. Due to this I made a powerful discovery –


When trying to find a girlfriend, your physical appearance does not matter. On women it does, and loads! On men, not so much (I’ll get into this in a second).

Now, let’s talk about the quality of girls. If you want a woman of higher quality, let’s say someone who works out and is winning in business, relationships… a woman who’s an overall winner, do looks matter? A little, yet nothing crucial.

Same with money. Does it matter? A little, yet nothing crucial.

Ultimately what makes a woman be attracted to a man is who that man is. No, I’m not talking about what that man does for a living or what status he holds in the eyes of our society, I’m talking about who that guy ACTUALLY is.

In my mind there are four pillars of attraction and by having them all properly balanced out you’ll be the most perfect guy she could find.


Nothing is more attractive than a guy who has a drive in life and who’s working on himself as a person.

This is when you’ve set a specific goal for yourself in life, knowing where to go and actually taking action and going there! This is when you know what you’re about and are not afraid to show it. Keep it fun, keep it lighthearted since the girl will not be attracted if you keep trying qualify yourself by sharing your goals and telling her how she should like you just because you have a goal. Not at all. Figure out what your life is about, set a goal for yourself whether it’s long-term or short-term, doesn’t matter, and then interact with the girl as if you did not care whether she finds out that you’re man of purpose or not. By doing so you’ll be purposeful almost automatically simply due to having the proper inner game sorted out before the approach.

Also, the girl will not fuck you if you do not take the conversation as a foreplay for sex. Since that’s what it is. Act with her as if you’re a man and she’s a woman and you’re both horny as fuck, yet there are social norms that prevent you two from fucking right then and there. Know as if you both are totally willing to fuck, but not yet. Do not try to win her over, already believe that you’ve won.

Besides, who the fuck would have the balls to actually approach with a sober head and then make it work? Almost no-one. So take some fucking pride in that. By being in self-help, by improving and focusing on learning more about life, having that as your main priority so to say, you’re already on the top. Money and good looks won’t change that. Your perception, in other words the way you view yourself however does!

By approaching, realize that girls want to meet a sex-worthy guy, and then there’s you providing that opportunity for them.

Therefore, have a purpose for your own life AND know why you’ve just approached that girl you’re talking to. If it’s for sexual purposes, own it.  If it’s to just make a new friend, own it. Girls will be whatever you like them to be, if you’re grounded and real in your intentions while being able to show some empathy and realize what’s going on so that your extreme masculinity would not scare them away.


Control the interaction. Think of yourself as a tree whereas the girl is the squirrel running around the tree. It’s the rule of being in reaction versus being grounded. If you want to have sex with a girl, you need to be the tree while she is being the squirrel. Whoever is reacting to the other more is the one that’s being controlled. And if the guy is being controlled by the girl, he’ll lose his sex-worthiness. Simple as that.

Also have an alignment in your thoughts, words and actions. If you’re out there approaching girls just with the sole purpose of having sex, own it up and act like it. This does not mean to be like a dog and chase girls, just assume every girl in the venue has already seen you and wants to have sex with you and now it’s time for you to choose. In other words – view yourself as a fucking god.

Is it realistic? Fuck no, but does it have some truth to it? Fuck yes. By improving yourself as a man and moving towards better understanding of our world you’re on the top, therefore one of the most sex-worthy guys out there. Having a STRONG sense of your own reality, whatever that might be. And is that far away from being a god? Hell no.

Act like a rock-star and get treated like one. You don’t even have to back it up, that’s the beauty about psychology and game. The one who has the strongest frame, wins. In the girls eyes you can be whoever you want to be.

Girls want a guy that’s alive, in his prime, on top of his shit, going places, has certainty, goes through life with ease, knows where he’s going. She wants a guy that’s potent and in his fucking prime.


You will be meeting tons of girls when you go out. By meeting more people you’ll become more at ease with your interactions. You’ll be in this state of flow where talking to people and getting sex at the end of the night with a girl you like seems effortless. You’ll be in the zone, so to say.

Talk to everyone, sleep with the ones you like and learn from EVERYBODY. Even the guys that are trying to game and are competing with you. Learning is KEY.

Also, keep in mind that a girl is not a goddess. Snap out of that illusion, all girls are human just like you. They have families, they have issues, they are insecure, they try to be cool, they are living their own fucking life and are by NO MEANS perfect. She is the same value as you on a ground level, and if you’re a hardcore go-getter who’s eager to learn from everyone, your value will be even much higher!

And that’s okay. Accept everyone for what they are, you can be playfully judgemental yet never quite mean it (don’t call an actual fat person fat and so on). Accept people for what they are since they’re all fighting their own battles, big or small. Have some respect for that.

Anyway, flowing. Take it easy, there’s no need to rush things. Know that everything will work out eventually if you just keep at it. Come from an abundant mindset. Don’t let anything disturb your peace. Consistent meditation is of tremendous help here.

Act like a rock-star and you’ll be treated like one.  Act like a rock-star and everyone will assume you’re one. Simple.


Whenever you go out, fun is such an important element. And I’m not talking about drinking, playing Pokemon with friends, sex or board games. I’m talking about having fun on your own, seeing the light side in everything that comes in your way and embracing the chaos, creating fun vibes out of nothing simply because you’re a giving person who loves to share good vibes.

Share good vibes! Be positive! Be the guy who’s good mood cannot be broken! Be like fucking Tom Cruise, the most positive guy ever!

Only you can determine your own entitlement. You see a hot girl, you feel approach anxiety yet you go anyway – that there defines you! It’s not the smile you get from the girl or the sex or any other validation you receive. It’s your own perception.


If I could summarise my whole book on dating for men, this would be it. 200 000 words said in 1500 words. But, it won’t just cover EVERYTHING you need. It just cannot be done. This article just exposes you to the main concept of sexual attraction.So, once again:


Want to go deeper?


Have a strong desire to find out more about women?


Do you happen to identify yourself as a guy who’s willing and passionate and won’t give up?


Only then I  STRONGLY urge you to check out my masterpiece.



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Believe it or not, but this is my 100th blog post. Yay!


One hundred blog posts on self-help, yet people are still not happy. One hundred blog posts on how to become attractive as a man, yet guys are still not able to do so without sounding creepy, needy or just plain out boring. One hundred blog posts written about becoming the man of your prime (or a woman!), yet people are still unhappy, ungrateful, bored, stressed out, tired of hustle on top of so many other negative things that are not helping them to enjoy life and make their dreams come true in any way…

In other words, you can try to change the world as much as you’d like, there will always be people who are unable to change due to their own personal upbringing, the experiences they’ve had and the people they’ve been influenced by.

If you look at some self-help kings such as Tony Robbins, Tai Lopez, Grant Cardone, Gary Vaynerchuck and the company of Real Social Dynamics, you’ll see the same. We’re the people who have been devoting our everyday life towards sharing useful and extremely valuable knowledge (just as Tai would say), yet we’re only able to reach a small fraction of people no matter how many views our articles and videos get.






What we can learn from this is that in many ways our world is fucked, meaning in so many ways we’re in a really bad shape. As humans we are flawed, greedy, needy, jealous on top of so many other things. We’re not perfect by all means.

But let me ask you this:

Is perfection obtainable?

Most definitely not.

So should we even ask for it?

Yes and no.


The bar can never be straight, but it can strive to be straighter. In many ways life is just this journey that we have, without a certain destination, if any. We will always be working on something, we’ll always have goals, we’ll always be wanting more since that’s our nature, at least for now. It’s like unhappiness is coded within us, this relentless need to go for more than we have.

Appreciating the things we have is essential for happiness, yet one is not able to do so at all times. Therefore, dissatisfaction is guaranteed.

But should we really be focusing on worrying about the fact that we’re not perfect. Well, since perfection is not obtainable, then absolutely not. There will always we flaws in some form or another, and despite us, the people who focus on sharing experience and valuable lessons, will always be in high demand. We can never be perfect, but we can always strive to be closer to it.

That’s the beauty of improving yourself. It’s fun, it feels good and the work never stops.