I just finished watching “La grande bellezza” also known as “The Great Beauty”.
It’s an Italian movie that has many meanings and different ideas written into itself, but to me the main story is all about the search for true beauty and life’s meaning. It’s one of those movies that you need to experience at least two times and the second time will not make any more sense if you do not see it completely from start to finish the first time. I’ll be honest – it’s a depressing movie, but the more you distance yourself from it the more you start to make sense of it and soon enough you’ll understand how big of a masterpiece it really is. You will experience it in a state of depression, but the moment when you finally understand it, the movie eases its way into your heart and creates a certain type of understanding and ease about our world and what we’re really supposed to do with our time in here.
“Jep Gambardella has seduced his way through the lavish nightlife of Rome for decades, but after his 65th birthday and a shock from the past, Jep looks past the nightclubs and parties to find a timeless landscape of absurd, exquisite beauty.”
This is how the description for this movie goes. One of the most interesting lessons I got from this movie was an ensurement of my own theory – a pickup artist, a pimp, someone who is condemned by the society can discovery so much more in life than the person who just follows rules. It’s just like Arnold Schwarzenegger once said:
“Break some rules.”
The movie ends with an extremely charming quote by Jep, the main character himself. “It’s all just a trick.” This was the message I picked up from this movie. People live, we put on masks to fit in, we look for guidance from other people who appear to be smarter than us, we rarely make our own choices simply because we’re afraid and in the end – everything ends with death. The main message for me from this movie was this:
We all live, we all die. Some devote their lives to serving something grand such as god. Some take all they can from their life and party, do drugs, drink alcohol, smoke and just burn through the experiences very quickly. Some are desperate to look for meaning in things. But in the end, everything just simply is. Life probably does not have a meaning, but we should still live like there is one. And the beauty…well. It’s all around us. Some of it is hidden, some of it is right here for everyone to see. We just need to learn to appreciate it, since it’s not being taught to us in schools, not by our parents nor by the society. The great beauty is something in order to understand we all need to go through our own path, learning curves do exist but in the end they’re just here to help us and don’t do the work for us. Some find it sooner, for some it takes most of their lives and some do not find it at all.
The Great Beauty is a movie that masterfully captures the meaningless of life and how we ourselves must create the meaning for our own life and not look for a greater purpose simply because it does not exist.
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Jep Gambardella was a womanizer. An artist of his own kind. Picking up women truly is an art, and a really beautiful one.
One of my main ideas that I share with my students is to question everything, therefore I understand if this seems like a superfluous self-promotion. And as you know, your doubts are completely fine. One should not fall easily under the influence of marketing.
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Biggest Lessons I’ve ever gotten from watching movies:
Fight Club – media is mostly one-sided and therefore wrong
Birdman (Or The Unexpected Virtue Of Ignorance) – your legacy matters, sometimes a lot more than your life
Silver Linings Playbook – you can be dysfunctional and still have massive happiness and high quality in your life
Phone Booth – Be honest. Otherwise you’ll fuck up your life
The Guest – Charm and confidence will give you massive advantages in life. You are not born with these skills, you develop them.