As a well known professional pickup artist…
On top of being successful with dating, sharing one’s personality is where the real satisfaction lies in terms of picking up women. To be able to fully express yourself without filtering out anything while at the same time actually having an interesting perspective on this and personality in general is a great place to be at. I’ve never had any problems believing that a guy is able to have a tremendous amount of fun by just going up to women and getting rejected for hours without end. Through the eyes of a regular person he might say that guy over there is failing over and over again, getting no results and therefore being a total failure and on top of that also wasting his time.
I would never even consider saying that, since as a guy who’s gone through that process of being a beginner in the field of dating and as a guy who’s been afraid to speak his mind in front of others and having extreme amounts of social anxiety even while being with my closest friends, I know exactly how good it can feel when simply saying “Hi” to a random girl on a street who wants nothing to do with you. It’s liberating, highly satisfactory and fun. To be the real you and sharing your own ideas with other people or in other words – living life, is one of the best feelings one could ever experience. Gender holds no importance here, since we’re talking about authenticity and social freedom. Mental freedom is everything. Don’t let it be taken away from you. They can chain your body, but the mind remains yours as long as you have the power to use mental alchemy. Oh, what’s that? It is mind power that’s accumulated through realizing the very same truths I’m writing about in my new book.
There is a monkey living in your brain. Some call it the primitive side of the brain, some say it’s our spirit and some say it is our ego. Whatever the definition might be, its behaviour is relatable to a young inexperienced monkey. This monkey does not know much and is unable to think highly as us, humans are. This monkey is unable to analyse, create different complex ideas and has trouble with even the smallest and most common mechanisms. This monkey lives purely on emotions, screams and runs away on the first sight of danger, creates different problematic ideas about the future that might not ever happen, develop different opinions on why everyone else are always to be blamed for its own mistakes and so on. This monkey is part of our system whether we like it or not. This monkey is us, in all its glory.
We cannot escape this monkey that has decided to make a habit out of living inside our brain. What can we do? The only reasonable thing we can do is to let the monkey do its thing, but since taking its inability to be an effective leader into account, we can choose to not listen to it. The monkey needs to be there, in our brain, judging and valuing every decision we make, but its judgement is flawed due to being based on premature conclusions. Realize its presence, acknowledge it, do not by any means fight it. Accept it, laugh at it, play around with it, but do not identify yourself with it. It’s just something that’s bound to be there, don’t overblow its importance. Logic is the key, and smart logic for that being, since many of us have trouble finding out the real definition.
Train yourself to have an unclouded judgement, unaffected by your own ego that has been slowly developing itself throughout your educational years, and then use logic. This technique is actually as close to bulletproof as it can be.
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