Nice Guy Syndrome (And How To Fix It)

Ever since we are young, our parents have emphasized the idea on us that we should always be nice to each other even when we don’t want to. It’s such a common thing to say, since pretty much every single parent has said this to her child at one point or another. This kind of belief, if one takes it too seriously, will set your kid up for failure. The person who believes he or she needs to be fake and pretend to be nice only because that’s the way how we are able to operate our lives without stepping on any toes, creating anger in others and getting into conflicts, is uneducated. The result is simple. People who are mean on the inside, bitter about life and hate tons of different things, are trying to preserve themselves to be nice, since it seems to be the righteous thing to do. These are the very same people who get angry at life wondering why everything bad always happens to them, since they have done everything right, not pissed anybody off and been a good person overall.

No, that’s most certainly not so.

You are just acting as a nice person, but in reality you’re really not. You’re bitter, full of anger and fear, and have no clue how a successful person regardless of his or her field would operate. You are blind and uneducated. You’re a sheep.

If you act as a sheep, then you will be treated like one.

This is your reality check.

A big misconception is that we should all be nice to each other. The idea is to not be fake, but to actually be a nice person so you would not have to fake your mood and actions. The person who has good things happen to him is actually nice, he is a good person deep down and wishes the best for people without having fear, anger or hatred clouding his mind.

“I attract a crowd, not because I’m an extrovert or I’m over the top or I’m oozing with charisma. It’s because I care.” -Gary Vaynerchuk

One of the most praised traits is honesty. However, honesty is not something people usually want to hear. When you’ve failed your exams, then of course it’s better to hear the other guy saying that it’s okay, the exam was hard anyway, you’ll do better next time opposed to sayings such as failing being your own fault for not studying hard enough, for not having willpower and so forth. Honesty is a great policy, if the place the words are coming from is love. The guy that everyone want to be around and who people respect, is the guy who’s honest, yet sincere and offers quality advice instead of making the other person feel bad.

Train yourself to be the guy or girl who enjoys life, then you’ll be the real wolf, not bringing people down with negativity nor lying about who you are, but staying true to yourself and making sure that “self” is positive and worth being around.

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