So you think you’re depressed

So you think you’re sick…

 

For all of you self-proclaimed “sick” people out there…

There are very few actual mental diseases/dysfunctions that actually exist because of solid reasons. Very fucking few. Most problems that people have are really damn simple to solve.

You either give too many fucks or too little. On top of this, learn to give fucks for the right reasons. Keep in mind that the reasons you think to be right are most likely bullshit.

You’re not “special”. You don’t have any psychological diseases that keep you from being happy. You’re not broken. You just don’t have the right answer yet.

What is considered to be a phony disease? Almost anything that people have come out from without the need of doctors, medication or anything else regarding such treatments. Depression, for instance, is a common one. Anything that can be cured through our inner power needs no external stimulus. Due to being an unpopular kid throughout my schoolyears I found myself socialising with other kids who were not so lucky with their situation in terms of popularity. Yes, I was friends with the most broken and dysfunctional kids in my school. I was able to relate to them, which says a lot about my background. As I went on in life, acquired knowledge on this subject and learned to cure myself from a disease that did not exist (yes, I experienced severe depression), the more and more I realized how much of a joke this disease, or should I say dis-ease, really is.

We think life is tough. We think life is meant to be fought against. We think life is evil and tries to harm us. Sure, in many ways it’s completely true, but this perception is coming from nothing else than just the lack of knowledge. The person who sees the world as evil has never seen its good side, just as the person who only knows the good and sees flowers has not experienced evil. And, there is this concept of seeing the world as you want it to be. Many of us find comfort in believing that the world is evil and that everything is trying to bring us down. It gives us a sense of satisfaction, knowing we’re not responsible since the world is fighting against us anyway, falsely labeling ourselves as that guy who is against violence and who will not fight back no matter the circumstance, yet the only thing we succeed at is hiding our own personal anger and frustration, which is backed by fear and weakness, lack of confidence and self-esteem. Then, we have those people who only see the positive. It’s a powerful perception, since it will let you live in harmony, but not in complete harmony. There will always be something missing, there will always be something they’re avoiding and their “self” will never be complete.

So what’s the best way to go about it?

Really simple. We do not need to force any positive thinking ideas on ourselves, nor do we need to feel hate towards this evil world of ours. None of these answers are correct. Only when we embrace both sides, the good and the evil, we are able to truly connect to our inner self, to develop true confidence and move on in this world as a true wolf. Knowledge is key, and action is turning the key in the optimal direction. Create your own perception about life, and make it into a powerful one that supports your life in the most wonderful way possible. Do not reject feelings. Do not reject anger nor hate. Let them flow through you, and realise how they are a passing thing and also completely normal for a sane human being to feel. There is nothing wrong with our feelings. We are all human after all, and all we need is just a bit of knowledge to know how to optimize our functionality in the world. Once again, embrace both sides of life. Or, do whatever the fuck you feel like doing. It’s a free world no matter where you’re at. They can chain us down, but our mind will always be free. It’s our greatest possession. The mind. Use it to your own advantage.

Whether you feel awesome or shitty, do not label it as good or bad. Emotions just are. Our happiness is determined by the way we react to them. Enjoy the grind, enjoy the pain and embrace chaos that hits us every day of the motherfucking week. Choose your struggle, and then struggle. Then, it stops being a struggle.

 

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The Spiritual Gangster

Here’s the most important piece of golden information I picked up while reading a book called The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle.

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There are two kinds of groups in this world, that define people who have passed the first levels of tests that life gives us. Both of them are somewhat successful and able to handle life due to their own philosophy.

1. The ones that are constantly striving for more, being obsessed with getting a raise in their paycheck and once they get it, they’ll set up another goal and start stressing about the new goal. These are the people who can’t take time off since they’re too busy conquering the world. “Be the best, fuck the rest.”

For instance let’s look at the person who’s making 10$/h. His biggest life goal right now is to increase this number, let’s say by 2 euros. In two years time, after working hard and doing as his told, he gets the long waited raise and starts making 12$/h. His entire life is a tedious struggle filled with anxiety, depression, workacholism and hard stress. This kind of person is living for the weekends, for the holidays, that he or she barely takes due to their desire to become something more. This is not a bad mindset to have, but what it lacks of is common sense, which in these days is extremely hard to find.

2.The ones that don’t set any goals, since they’ve become “spiritual” now. These are the ones who don’t think external values matter, that we should not work towards becoming rich, having cool things, travelling and all the good stuff, and just focus on enjoying life to the fullest.

You’ll find them in clubs, bars, street corners… just about anywhere. If you ask one of them about their life situation, they’ll just say you should relax, everything is fine, I’m enjoying every bit of my time here and am fully happy. Yet, they do not look happy. Many of them are doing psychoactive drugs, experimenting with everything that’s really harmful for our bodies and drastically shortens our lifespan and our life’s quality. They’re more free than the workaholic that I described before, but they’re not much better off.

Ultimately you don’t want to get stuck in either one of these paradigms.

Here’s my solution…

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The philosophy of Tal Ben-Sahar 

The philosophy of Tal Ben-Sahar ties the two parts of how you can have a vision and a goal, and feel present to the moment at the same time perfectly together.

Imagine you’re a mountain climber. Happiness isn’t at the peak of a mountain. Most of us get it, but only a few of us actually understand and act on this belief. If a helicopter picked you up and dropped you on the tip of the mountain, you wouldn’t feel as happy as someone who climbed the mountain. There would be no emotional leverage, no reward, just an empty view that does not mean much to you. At the same time, neither is it down there, aimlessly wandering around the mountain and never taking action towards climbing the mountain. Happiness is not at the peak nor at the base of the mountain. Happiness is the experience of climbing towards the peak. This is ultimately how you want to look at it. You set out a goal that holds great value to you, no matter how big or crazy it is, and then you follow that path that leads you there while you stay present to the moment on the journey.

Eckhart Tolle was a guy who sat on a park bench for years, practising the power of now in himself before writing his best-selling books. He did not climb the mountain, he belong to the second category of what I talked about. Despite this, he never says “don’t climb the mountain”. If he did, then he’d be still sitting on a park bench instead of cashing in millions!

“Attaining lasting happiness requires that we enjoy the journey on our way toward a destination we deem valuable. Happiness, therefore, is not about making it to the peak of the mountain, nor is it about climbing aimlessly around the mountain: happiness is the experience of climbing toward the peak” – Tal Ben-Shahar

 

 

Win Before Actually Winning

There is this saying that judging by the books we read, people we spend the most of our time with and the activities and habits we mostly engage in, by the sum of these you can accurately predict the life of any person in five years. In this article I’m going to focus on relationships and how other people around us really play a big role in our development.

One of the most important points I’m able to point out is that we tend to spend time with people who are not really good for us in terms of developing as an individual. I used to make this mistake a lot and always hang out with my parents, even though my life goals were much different from what they held in high value. Despite them projecting an entirely different lifestyle on me than what I wanted for myself, I still went to birthday parties, christmas and other family gatherings. I even spent my every single new year’s eve with my family, the people from who I tried so hard to differ.

 

These were some of my life goals:

-new girlfriend

-sleep with a different girl every single day

-get into college

 

In order to improve, one must spend time with people who are above him in terms of knowledge, status and all that kind of stuff. It is possible to learn something from every single person, however, you’re going to learn much more from someone who’s smarter than you. You would not take fitness advice from your parents who are both overweight now would you? The smart thing to do would be to find a role model who lives the life he projects, and who actually walks the talk.

Let’s take a look at another example. If your goal is to become rich, why would you take financial advice from your parents that are in the middle class? Why would you take financial advice from someone who’s making 300k a year opposed to another dude who’s making over a million in a year. It’s just common sense. Every single bond that you think you’ll have with your close relatives, any principle that you think you have to follow up on, is just in your own head. In reality we don’t have any responsibilities in front of anybody at all. Everything in our life is just the matter of our own perception, of what we believe it to be. The more we’ll think about it, the more logical this fact seems to be.

 

responsibility = response + ability

It’s not that we need to do something, it’s about our ability to respond to external stimulus.

 

So now we’ve established that if your goal is to improve, then you must start changing your habits and the people you hang around with according to your life goals. If you want to be a millionaire, start hanging around with people who make a lot of money. If you want to be fit, then start taking advice from people who actually live the life that you’d like to also have. Ignore the ones that think they know what they’re talking about but don’t actually have anything to show for it.

You can see the intelligence level of pretty much anyone from just the way they speak to you. I usually test everyone that come across me by talking about random stuff that the other guy/girl seems to be interested in. I use this method to weed out those people who I should not spend any time on from those who I’d like to hang out with.

 

 

Oh, and by the way…

 

Here’s my book 🙂

 

Good Books Have Great Covers

There is this saying that judging by the books we read, people we spend the most of our time with and the activities and habits we mostly engage in, by the sum of these you can accurately predict the life of any person in five years. In this article I’m going to focus on relationships and how other people around us really play a big role in our development.

One of the most important points I’m able to point out is that we tend to spend time with people who are not really good for us in terms of developing as an individual. I used to make this mistake a lot and always hang out with my parents, even though my life goals were much different from what they held in high value. Despite them projecting an entirely different lifestyle on me than what I wanted for myself, I still went to birthday parties, christmas and other family gatherings. I even spent my every single new year’s eve with my family, the people from who I tried so hard to differ.

 

These were some of my life goals:

-new girlfriend

-sleep with a different girl every single day

-get into college

 

In order to improve, one must spend time with people who are above him in terms of knowledge, status and all that kind of stuff. It is possible to learn something from every single person, however, you’re going to learn much more from someone who’s smarter than you. You would not take fitness advice from your parents who are both overweight now would you? The smart thing to do would be to find a role model who lives the life he projects, and who actually walks the talk.

Let’s take a look at another example. If your goal is to become rich, why would you take financial advice from your parents that are in the middle class? Why would you take financial advice from someone who’s making 300k a year opposed to another dude who’s making over a million in a year. It’s just common sense. Every single bond that you think you’ll have with your close relatives, any principle that you think you have to follow up on, is just in your own head. In reality we don’t have any responsibilities in front of anybody at all. Everything in our life is just the matter of our own perception, of what we believe it to be. The more we’ll think about it, the more logical this fact seems to be.

 

responsibility = response + ability

It’s not that we need to do something, it’s about our ability to respond to external stimulus.

 

So now we’ve established that if your goal is to improve, then you must start changing your habits and the people you hang around with according to your life goals. If you want to be a millionaire, start hanging around with people who make a lot of money. If you want to be fit, then start taking advice from people who actually live the life that you’d like to also have. Ignore the ones that think they know what they’re talking about but don’t actually have anything to show for it.

You can see the intelligence level of pretty much anyone from just the way they speak to you. I usually test everyone that come across me by talking about random stuff that the other guy/girl seems to be interested in. I use this method to weed out those people who I should not spend any time on from those who I’d like to hang out with.

 

 

Oh, and by the way…

 

Here’s my book 🙂

 

a short description of success

Successful people are where they’re at, because they do not have time to worry about right or wrong, how their aunt abused them, how the girl of their dreams viciously dumped them, how the economy is shit, how saving lives is an honourable profession, their kid making his first steps, making money to support their family or anything else such as this for that matter.
People of significance are not tangled within ethics or moral questions. They get the job that matters to them, done.
You either focus on your work or stay focused on the petty things. For each achievement you’re sacrificing something.

How To Get An Amazing Idea By Doing NOTHING

It’s hard to come up with an idea that’s great. Believe me, I know this well. If you try to write a book in just few months, then this is a well-known problem for many aspiring writers. Hell,  even for the experienced ones. Whether you have a few bestsellers on the market or you’re just thinking about starting your first book, this situation still comes up from time to time. We can’t be „on“ every day. As humans, we’re bound to have some „off“ days. This is not a bad thing, since without them we would not appreciate the good days as much as we do. If there was no bad then after some time „good“ would divide into two categories – very good and just good. „Just good“ will become the new „bad“ and „very good“ will be the regular „good.“ Down days are inevitable.

How can we feel happy all the time, if we’re bound to experience these depressing times as well? Simple. Just let go. Have no expectations for yourself, but still give your everything into every endeavour. Understand that we do not need to have all these expensive things such as fancy cars, enormous houses, clothes and even a partner. Happiness is our default state, society just tells us to buy their products for the sake of marketing and making some money. We’re simply brainwashed into thinking that we’re not happy and need to buy something in order to feel happy. We do not need any of these to be happy, we should want them just because they make our lives even greater. If you have a goal in mind, an idea for your upcoming life that’s so grand that you can’t do anything else but to wait for the future, then you’re going to miss all the great times that you could have every single day if you just stopped to look for them. Every single moment we experience is amazing. We just have to realize this. This is just a glimpse of a grand idea that I have explained to the core in my other post.

My other post on how to find true happiness

 

A smooth sea has never made a skilled sailor.

 

How to get ideas?

There are so many ways to get inspired nowadays. Jogging, walking, medidation…all of these work extremely well. And now is the moment where I’m supposed to offer you my unique idea. Here it comes…

 

Wait for it. Simply just wait for the ideas. Despite what people think, good ideas do grow on trees. We are these trees. All we have to do is to wait for them to develop. This is done by just going on with your day, offering your mind some fuel like books, good nutrition, exercise… Everything like this will improve your thinking and act as seeds for good ideas. Enjoy all the moments life throws at us and just let go of all the everyday bullshit. Life is a gift, not a chore. As long as we do not understand this concept, the ideas we search for are quite hard to come by. A grand idea does not come by force.

 

If you enjoyed this, then be sure to check out my book on how to succeed in the field of dating:

You can be CRAZY and still get LAID

I have this friend of mine, that is slightly autistic and has major issues when talking to not just girls, but people in general. Therefore, his “game” so to say is extremely unorthodox because the topics this guy tends to talk about, the remarks he makes daily and the things he thinks about when eating out and socializing in general are completely off the chart!

This guy is the definition of “WTF did you just say?!”

Now, this guy has a girlfriend. This very same guy has een attracting women for years now, despite his condition. Imagine being on a date and talking about how much you love to look at other guy’s asses, trying to fuck a cat, express love for violence…  while being dead serious, if I might add! Imagine how uncomfortable this can be if you’re a girl who agreed to meet this guy for a cup of coffee. But, despite all of this the guy is getting laid left and right. This guy is very good with women. How can this be, you might ask? How does that shit work? Why would anybody want to associate themselves with this maniac?

The answer is simple.

 

Feminine energy is designed to follow whereas masculine energy is designed to lead. Even if the leader is out of his fucking mind, the feminine side will follow simply because that’s what she’s meant to be doing. I’m not even fucking exaggerating. Now of course there are things such as common sense and using your brain, but the limits are not clear and can be bent easily, just as this guy is doing. It’s most definitely not a valid strategy to talk about your deepest fucked up experiences on a first date, but this just goes to show you what’s actually possible in this crazy world of ours. The guy that I talked about is a fucking master. He could talk about almost anything and make it work.

In a perfect scenario we’re supposed to balance our emotions and thoughts to reach the perfect balance. However, humans make mistakes. I’m a human. You’re a human. Therefore, shit happens.

Girls fall for guys that own their reality without being apologetic for it.

 

Here’s the full story of how to master dating and through that LIFE in general.